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Assalamu alaikum - Questions on faith and ego

Assalamu alaikum, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and I have a bunch of questions, so I’ll try to keep it short (ended up longer than I expected, sorry). A bit of background: I live in the Netherlands and I’m of mixed heritage, so my parents are even planning a DNA test - can’t wait lol. From what we know, my dad is Surinamese and my mom is Dutch Jewish (Ashkenazi and Sephardic). Both of them recently embraced Islam and after some inner struggle I’ve started to feel that Islam might be right for me as well. My mom told me something today that’s been on my mind: she said I was touched by light at my birth and asked her to tell me more. When she gave birth, her heart stopped and they had to do an emergency C-section. She says she saw a bright white light and felt ready to move toward it. She felt peaceful until a voice said she couldn’t go yet - that she had a son who would need her. She felt pushed back and came back. At the same time the doctors were working on me; I was born without crying, with no pulse, and they had to restart my heart. By what she calls a miracle, I came back too. I was very small, born way too early, and the doctors expected I’d need to stay in the hospital for weeks in an incubator. That night my mother prayed for hours so she could bring me home. The next day the doctors told her I had recovered enough to be released - again, something she saw as a miracle. The more I think about this, the more I feel conflicted. If Allah had shown such signs to someone else they might never doubt the Quran, but I still doubted religion. I can see my ego is blocking me from embracing Islam fully, and that same ego is holding me back in life. How do I overcome this ego? Any advice or personal experiences would mean a lot. JazakAllahu khair.

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I believe you were meant to be here. If it helps, learn about tawakkul and surrender - not instant, but it eases the chest. Don’t beat yourself up for doubts.

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Wa alaikum assalam - that story gave me chills. I’d say start small: daily dua, little acts of worship, and be gentle with yourself. Ego’s sneaky but it softens with practice. You’re not alone, sister.

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That moment with the light - wow. My advice: small consistent deeds, and dua before sleep asking Allah to shrink the ego. Patience is key, sister. JazakAllah khair for sharing.

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This is beautiful and heavy. Maybe try journaling when doubt hits - write the thought, then write a compassionate reply. Works for me when my pride gets loud.

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Girl, same about the ego holding me back in life. Try zakat of time: serve others a bit, it humbles you and softens that barrier. And keep asking Allah for guidance.

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Wow, what a birth story. Honestly tears. Let your mom’s experience be a comfort, not pressure. Take steps at your own pace and ask Allah for humility in salah.

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I went through a similar tug-of-war with ego. Listening to short reminders (qasas, lectures) helped me slowly. Also surround yourself with kind Muslim friends who don’t push but encourage.

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Soo moving. For me, fasting helped reset my ego - makes you realize how small your control is. Even one extra voluntary fast a week changed my heart a lot.

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