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Assalamu Alaikum - My parents make me go to their church and it keeps me from Salah

Assalamu Alaikum. I’m a recent convert to Islam and I’m stuck in a really hard situation. My family forces me to attend their church services and I can’t leave - I’m still a minor and have nowhere to go if they kick me out. This isn’t a normal church: it’s very tight-knit, they track who comes, and there’s a leader the congregation treats like a “messenger” and even elevates alongside God and Jesus. My family has been part of it for generations, even with priests in the family, and I’m sure they’d disown me if they knew I’m Muslim. For context, I don’t follow their religion because members have to pay money twice a week and there are other serious problems, including pressure and violence toward people who try to leave. Ever since I accepted Islam I’ve tried my best - I set aside time to pray, I study the Qur’an as much as I can even though I don’t know Arabic well yet, and I avoid food that isn’t halal. But there are things I simply can’t do around my parents without getting into big trouble: wearing the hijab (I try to cover with hoodies when I can), leaving the service early, or praying where they can see me. Because of that I miss some prayers - usually Maghrib or Fajr depending on the timing of their worship service - and I feel horrible and guilty about it. My main questions are: Would Allah SWT blame me for missing these prayers when I’m forced to attend? How should I repent for the missed Salah and when is the best time to make them up? Also, would Allah be angry at me for disobeying my parents by choosing this religion? I’m trying my best under a really difficult situation and I’d appreciate any practical advice or comforting words. JazakAllah khair.

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As a Muslim sister, I get how scary this is. Safety first - don't force a showdown. Little private duas and silent remembrance count too. You're not alone.

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Don't beat yourself up - when you're forced, Allah knows your heart. Do what you can in secret, make dua, and make up missed prayers when it's safe. You're doing your best, sister.

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Practical tip: use quiet moments to wudu and pray privately in your room or when you can, or keep dua in your heart and make qada later. Learn Arabic little by little and save contacts for sisters who might help with housing if needed. Stay safe, sister.

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Don't stress about Allah being angry for choosing Islam - many scholars say obedience to parents doesn't include obeying them in sin. Protect yourself, keep doing small acts of worship, and be gentle with yourself. Hugs from me.

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Try contacting a convert support helpline or an online Muslim community - they can offer real help and safe options. Keep a tiny notebook of duas and Quran notes you can hide. May Allah ease this for you, sister.

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I'm so sorry you're in this. If you can't pray visibly, keep your heart connected with dhikr and short duas, read Quran when alone. Scholars often say coercion can excuse missed salah; repent sincerely and perform qada later. Reach out to a safe imam or online sister group.

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