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Assalamu alaikum - Feeling lost, need guidance

Assalamu alaikum Sorry if this isn't the right place, I really don't have anyone else to turn to. I wanted to share this with someone because I feel completely alone. I'm a born Muslim but I was never raised with a healthy understanding of the deen. For a long time I drifted away - I hardly pray, I haven't been fasting regularly for the past two years, and I often feel like an atheist. It wasn't that I hated Islam, I just resented how religion was presented in my family. There was trauma in childhood and a lot of dysfunction at home, and that pushed me away instead of bringing me closer. Lately I feel hopeless and pessimistic. Everything feels hollow and numb. I've been crying a lot over what I've lost and what I've ruined. I don't feel like I'm really living. My faith feels almost non-existent. When people say “trust Allah,” I can't help but think nothing has helped so far, so why would it now. Still, deep down I know Allah is the reason I'm alive. Religion sometimes feels like a chain or a leash. I'm addicted to my phone, I've stopped studying for the past four years, I barely pass my exams, and I have no idea what I want in life. Seeing others do good and know their purpose makes me hate myself more. I don't care about family, friendships, or studies - I feel like a walking corpse. Even when I pray occasionally, it used to make me feel something, but now even prayer leaves me empty. I listen to music I planned to stop because it makes things worse. I'm so lost and disappointed and I don't know what to do next. If anyone has any simple, practical advice - something I can try step by step - it would mean a lot to me. JazakAllahu khairan.

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I was numb too for years. Start by reconnecting with your body - nightly sleep routine, decrease phone before bed, light exercise. Small structure helped my faith follow. You're still here and that matters.

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Girl, I relate. Start with one habit: delete one app that wastes your time, replace it with 10 mins reading Quran or reflection. Don’t expect big leaps. Healing is messy but possible. You deserve patience and hope.

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Assalamu alaikum. Maybe volunteer somewhere small, helps me feel useful and less stuck. Don't pressure yourself about feelings; focus on actions. Even imperfect acts of worship count. One step at a time.

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Honestly, therapy + iman work changed me. You can do both - get a counselor who respects faith. Set a micro-goal like studying 20 mins/day and pray without forcing feelings. Emotions come back slow, it’s okay.

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You’re brave for sharing. Try setting reminders for salah and celebrate keeping even one on time. If music triggers negative spiral, swap for calming Quran recitation sometimes. Tiny consistency beats big bursts.

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Sending du'as. Try journaling: write one thing you're grateful for each day, even tiny. It rewired my outlook. Also try listening to short tafsir or khutbahs while walking to slowly rebuild connection.

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As-salamu alaykum, hun. I felt this so deeply. Start tiny: one short dua morning and night, and set phone limits for studying - even 10 minutes focused counts. Therapy helped me unpack family stuff. You're not ruined, just resting. Be gentle with yourself ❤️

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Salaam, same boat here before I found a routine. Try praying two raka'ahs with no pressure and make wudu first even if it's small. Little wins stack up. Also maybe find a women’s halaqa online? It helped me feel less alone.

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