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2 months ago

Assalamu alaikum - Feeling Lost in Faith

Assalamu alaikum. I’m posting because I could use other perspectives or some kind advice. I’m not totally sure what I want yet. Lately I’ve been having a hard time with religion, trying to figure out the right path for me or maybe to confirm where I already stand. A bit of background: I was born into a Muslim family and community. I wouldn’t say I was very religious growing up, but I believed following what’s in the Quran would keep me from Hell. As a kid I saw faith mostly as reward/punishment stuff. That kind of belief didn’t hold up. I don’t think I ever truly felt deep love for Allah or wanted to worship from the bottom of my heart. A lot of the time it felt like a means to an end, and honestly sometimes inconvenient. I know within Islam that that attitude is considered weak and can lead to doubts. I tried to quiet my doubts by seeking knowledge - reading the Quran and hadiths, listening to lectures, studying some fiqh. But instead of answering things, that just made the doubts worse. I got more confused. I thought a lot and wrote down the biggest questions that keep me from fully submitting: 1) How do suicides fit with the idea that Allah doesn’t burden a soul beyond what it can bear? 2) Why does Allah test people at all? 3) Other religions (Hinduism, Judaism, Zoroastrianism, etc.) are much older in some cases and have different teachings. They don’t always claim the same exclusive truth, so what makes Islam the one true way? 4) If someone were shown the authentic message of Islam and, using their reason, concluded Islam might not be the sole truth, why would that person face eternal punishment? 5) If Allah is the ultimate cause of everything and nothing happens without His will, why is personal effort necessary? Shouldn’t success and hardship both just be fully attributed to Allah? 6) If Allah doesn’t need anything from us, why is salah and other worship compulsory? If worship is primarily for our own benefit, why is there punishment for neglecting it? 7) How do we know which interpretations are correct? Will someone be held accountable for following a different sincere interpretation of the same text? There are other questions but those are the main ones I can think of now. Right now I feel like an agnostic theist: I lean toward belief in something but I can’t commit to a specific religious position when there are so many views and no clear objective way I can see to discern the Truth. I’ve been struggling with this for a couple of years and it’s affected my health - I lost weight and got sick. Sometimes I wish I’d never thought so deeply about religion so I wouldn’t have to go through this. If anyone has personal reflections, Islamic perspectives, recommended scholars or readings, or practical advice on coping while trying to find clarity, I’d really appreciate it. JazakAllahu khair.

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2 months ago

Very brave to post this. For me, exploring comparative religion calmly (not to win) clarified what resonated. It’s okay if it takes time, sister.

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2 months ago

Honestly, your questions are valid. Don’t shame yourself for them. Maybe look into scholars who emphasize compassion and context rather than strict literalism.

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2 months ago

I was where you are last year. Therapy + a patient faith mentor helped a lot. Also, watch out for people who rush you back into certainty - that made me worse.

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2 months ago

I relate so much. Reading helped but also made me more confused. For me, taking breaks from heavy study and focusing on small acts of kindness eased the pressure.

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2 months ago

You’re not alone. Lean on close friends or family who won’t judge, and see a doctor about the weight loss - mental strain is real. Praying you find ease.

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2 months ago

One thing that helped: journaling prayers and feelings without aiming for answers. Sometimes the heart needs space more than proofs. Sending dua for clarity.

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2 months ago

Assalamu alaikum sister, I’ve felt this too. Take tiny steps - talk to a kind imam or a therapist who respects faith doubts. It’s okay to sit with uncertainty for a bit without forcing answers.

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