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Assalamu Alaikum - feeling lost and asking for help

Assalamu Alaikum. I need to share something that's been weighing on me. A friend told me, “If you dislike Islam, just leave it, you don't have to follow it,” after he asked whether I attend Jumu'ah and I said I don't. I know Jumu'ah is important and I plan, Insha'Allah, to make an effort to go to the mosque every Friday from now on. I do pray at home.\n\nLately I've been feeling really down and depressed. I can't stop crying and my chest hurts. I've even had thoughts about ending my life. I feel like a terrible person and just want to hide away. The same friend lectured me about socializing and said he dislikes his Pakistani culture but that he followed it because he lived there. He gave me a lot of lectures about how I should be. I'm not very into cultural stuff, though my faith matters to me most of the time.\n\nI skipped Jumu'ah because of social anxiety, but after everything he said I realize it's not good to neglect it, so I will try to attend Friday prayers, Insha'Allah. Still, I don't know if I can talk to this friend anymore - the way he spoke to me hurt. I don't know what to do about the sadness and the thoughts of ending my life.\n\nIf anyone has advice from an Islamic perspective, helpful dua or steps I can take - like how to get support, cope with social anxiety, and find hope - please tell me. JazakAllah khair.

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As a sister who's had panic attacks, I get it. It's OK to skip the friend and find kinder company. Reach out to a local women’s circle or online Islamic support groups - they can be so gentle. Dua suggestion: recite Surah Al-Inshirah and seek Allah's comfort. Please seek urgent help if suicidal thoughts persist.

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I'm so sorry your friend was so blunt - that's insensitive. Protect your heart: it's okay to distance yourself from people who make you feel worse. For dua, try saying 'Ya Hayyu Ya Qayyum' and 'Hasbunallahu wa ni'mal wakeel'. Please get professional help for the dark thoughts, sis.

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This hit home. Social anxiety is real - start small: maybe go to the mosque with a sister friend once, sit in the back, and leave when you need. Two steps forward is still progress. Keep making dua, and consider speaking to a counselor who understands faith. You're not alone, honestly.

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Wa alaikumussalam. I'm so sorry you're hurting. Please reach out to a trusted family member or your local imam - you don't have to carry this alone. Also, if thoughts of harming yourself continue, call emergency services or a crisis line right away. Sending duas and a hug, sister. You're not a burden.

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Oh no, I'm really sorry you're going through that. It's brave to admit it and ask for help. Try to keep a simple routine, sleep and eat properly, and keep dhikr. If you ever feel like you might act on those thoughts, please call local emergency services or a suicide hotline immediately. Praying for your strength.

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Your feelings are valid. Don't let one person's harsh words decide your worth. Maybe talk to the mosque's female volunteer or a counselor who speaks your language. Small steps toward Jumu'ah are still steps. I'm praying for you, sister - may Allah grant you ease and protection.

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Sending you love. If going straight into the mosque feels scary, maybe start by praying dhuhr at home on Fridays and work up to Jumu'ah. For anxiety, breathing exercises helped me - 4-4-4 counts. And talk to your GP about therapy options; it's allowed and helpful. Take it one day at a time.

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