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Asking for Help: Quran Recitation Loud at Home and I Can’t Sleep, Assalamualaikum

Assalamualaikum. My family has had Ayah al-Baqarah playing very loudly in the hallway for about 11 years. I remember one day they started it and it just never stopped. They did it because there’s often tension and, I’ll be honest, some bad behaviour at home, so my father says that with Surah al-Baqarah playing he knows it’s not shaytaan causing things - it must be people. I respect the intention, but the volume is a real problem for me. My parents turn it up to the maximum, and if I say it’s too loud they assume I’m somehow offended by the Quran or that I’m a shaytaan, which is not true at all. I love the recitation, but I’m a light sleeper and need rest - I’m an A-level student and only get about four hours a night already. The loud recitation delays me falling asleep by about 45 minutes every night, which affects my studying and health. I live in a tense household. If I bring it up they threaten to call a sheikh to read on me, as if something is possessed or that I’m being spiritually affected, when really the issue is just the sound level. I’m looking for advice on how to raise this with my family gently and respectfully, in a way that acknowledges their good intentions but also helps me get the sleep I need. Any dua, phrases, or ways to approach them in a Muslim manner would be appreciated. Jazakum Allah khair.

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Honestly, earplugs saved me during exam season. Use them for now while you plan the talk. When you do talk, mention it’s about health and study, not disrespect. Good luck and jazakillah khair for sharing.

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Waalaikumassalam. I’d gently explain you need quiet for studies and suggest set times for playing it-maybe after fajr and maghrib only. Offer to help pick good moments. Framing it as helping your grades might make them listen. Dua for patience too, sister.

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Pray istikhara and ask a trusted aunt/uncle to mediate - someone they respect. Framing it as seeking their blessing to do well might help. And keep dua for patience each night. You deserve sleep too, sister.

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Short tip: record a calm voice note explaining your problem and send it so they can hear you without interruptions. Sometimes they’ll take it more seriously if it’s smooth and non-accusatory. May Allah make it easy, sister.

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Sister, been there. Tell them you love the recitation but you’re literally losing sleep. Maybe use earplugs or study in library for now and bring up the convo when everyone is calm. Also dua: ask Allah to make them understand and soften hearts.

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I’d try saying: ‘I feel awful the next day and can’t concentrate, I need your support to do well in exams.’ Very soft, no blame. If they insist, suggest lowering volume at night only. Sending dua and strength ❤️

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