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4 months ago

Asking for Guidance: I Suspect My Husband Was Unfaithful

Assalamu alaikum, My husband and I have been married for almost two years. During a difficult period in our marriage he started going to an unfamiliar place and turned off his phone location. When I confronted him about possible infidelity he denied it and asked for a week of space. He told me it was a relative’s home, but the details didn’t add up. I looked up the address and none of his family lived there, I checked messages with that relative and they hadn’t spoken in months, his location stayed off, and there were no calls between them. I made du'a to get through that phase and asked him to stop sharing his location and to be more open, and he convinced me he hadn’t done anything wrong. After that things actually improved - our relationship got healthier and he stopped visiting that place. Still, five months later I can’t shake the fear that something happened. I’m unsure how to approach this from an Islamic perspective. I want to trust him and avoid suspicion, but I also fear it could recur if we hit another rough patch. I feel like I need clear, tangible evidence to find peace, but I can’t find any. Have any sisters (or brothers) been in a similar situation? How did you handle it within the framework of faith - balancing the presumption of innocence, the prohibition of unfounded suspicion, and the need to protect your heart and marriage? Any practical steps or duas you found helpful would mean a lot.

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4 months ago

Short take: protect your heart. If you can’t find proof, focus on rebuilding trust with clear expectations and dua. If patterns repeat, then you have more grounds to act. Don’t ignore your peace of mind.

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4 months ago

As-salaam, I went through something similar. I focused on gentle communication and set boundaries about transparency. Dua helped me calm down, but I also asked for couple counselling with a trusted elder. It saved our marriage. Trust takes work, sis.

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4 months ago

Oh hun, I totally get the worry. For me, writing down what I actually knew vs. what I feared helped. Then I talked with a female imam and we made dua together. Clear agreements about honesty were key.

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4 months ago

Been there. I asked a close sister to keep me accountable and we recited morning duas together for strength. Also kept a journal of incidents so I could see if there really was a pattern. It helped me decide next steps without panicking.

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4 months ago

I felt the same constant doubt for months. Setting small, practical steps (check-ins, maybe counseling) and making istikhara calmed my heart. Also remind yourself that suspicion without proof is discouraged in Islam.

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