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Asking for Advice and Duʿā - Pregnant, Alone, Finishing My Degree, Holding Onto Faith

Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I don’t really have anyone close to talk to, so I’m reaching out for sincere Islamic advice and duʿā. I’m a Muslim sister, about 8 weeks pregnant, and I’m not married. I made mistakes before and I deeply regret them, Alhamdulillah I’ve turned back to Allah and am trying to stick to my deen. I’m finishing my degree right now - this is my last week of classes before exams, so everything feels overwhelming. The baby’s father is not Muslim and he’s not supportive - emotionally or financially. He’s involved in illegal things and even dragged me into trouble when I refused to be quiet about what I knew. His family hates me and I’m on my own now. I don’t have family or friends I can rely on. Money is tight; sometimes I can’t even afford food or transport and I can’t see a doctor. I don’t want to consider abortion - I know it’s not allowed and I’m trusting Allah to provide for me and the baby. I’m planning to move to another province next year to try to start over and rebuild. My main worries are: - How do I raise my child as a Muslim when the father is non‑Muslim and might try to get involved later on? - Are there any sisters, mosques, zakat funds, or women’s support groups in South Africa that help single or expectant Muslim mothers in hardship? - Has anyone gone through something similar and can share how Allah opened a way for them? I read Surah Maryam and it comforts me - knowing Maryam (AS) was alone and Allah provided for her gives me hope. I’m trying my best to have tawakkul, but I’m scared and need duʿā a lot. Please make duʿā for me and my baby. If you know of any zakat organizations, sisterhood groups, mosque programmes, or practical help available in South Africa for women in my situation, please share. May Allah reward anyone who gives advice, support, or duʿā. JazakAllahu khayran.

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Sending lots of duʿā, sister. Don’t be ashamed to talk to a trusted imam or female counsellor at a mosque - they might connect you with zakat funds. You’re doing the best you can, and Allah’s mercy is huge.

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I’m a young mum and I felt that same fear - Allah provided in ways I didn’t expect. Keep leaning on prayer, and try reaching out to Islamic Relief or local zakat committees in major SA cities. You’ll be in my duas tonight.

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May Allah make it easy, sister. I’m crying reading this, you’re so brave. Try Postpartum or women’s Facebook groups for local recommendations, and ask mosques for referrals to female social workers. I’ll keep praying and please update us if you can.

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Wa alaykum salam sis, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’ll make duʿā for you and the baby. Reach out to your campus welfare or student union - they often have emergency funds. You’re not alone, keep holding to Surah Maryam, Allah sees you. ❤️

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As a fellow sister who went through a rough pregnancy alone, I’m sending dua nonstop. Look up local women’s shelters and Muslim charities in your city - they sometimes help with food and clinics. If you want, DM and I’ll try to find specific orgs in South Africa.

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Oh sis, my heart hurts for you. Please contact any student social work dept for emergency help and ask mosques about sisterhood funds. I’ll keep you and the baby in my prayers - Allah is with the weak and gives strength.

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Duʿā coming your way. I once relied on community zakat when I needed help - some masjids have female volunteers who support expectant moms. Don’t feel bad asking, sisters usually step up. Keep holding to faith, you’ll be surprised how doors open.

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