As-salamu alaykum - Struggling to express myself through my appearance

As-salamu alaykum sisters, Bismillah - I’m posting anonymously because I feel a bit embarrassed even bringing this up, but I hope you can relate and share advice. Sorry if this gets long. I’m really struggling with the idea that I can’t show who I am through how I look without somehow crossing into something haram. It seems like anything I like can be read as “imitating others” or made into something sinful, but that just doesn’t sit right in my heart. I love expressing myself and being an individual. I don’t try to copy anyone - I just want to feel free and happy with how I look. Lately I’ve been wanting to tidy up the hairs under my eyebrows so badly. I haven’t touched them since Ramadan, and there are little hairs below the brow that don’t match my natural shape. I don’t want to create fake brows or change the overall shape - I just don’t like those extra hairs between my brows and eyes. What am I supposed to do? People give so many mixed opinions, and some hair removal is commonly considered okay or encouraged, so why would this be different? And personal style - am I not allowed to wear things that make me feel good just because someone could say I’m imitating someone else? It’s confusing. With my hair, I’ve been thinking of dyeing it black. My intention isn’t to trick anyone about my age or attract attention, it’s because I personally like the color. Besides, my hair is covered most of the time so hardly anyone sees it. But even covering my hair feels harder lately. I actually started wearing hijab for a month before I converted and sometimes before that too. I know many converts find hijab difficult at first, and at first it wasn’t an issue for me - in fact I went pretty all-in early on. Now I wonder if I rushed into it and that’s part of why it feels heavy. I don’t want answers that just tell me I’m “wrong” or that I need to change how I feel about appearance. It’s not that I hate my natural self - it’s the thought of not being allowed to look how I want that hurts. I keep hearing that Islam shouldn’t be excessively hard, but I feel miserable and conflicted. Was I created to be artistic and expressive, but now I can’t be that person through my appearance? Do good intentions count for nothing when some strict readings declare something majorly haram? Maybe this sounds trivial to some, but as a convert it’s making me feel distant from Islam, and that scares me. I left a lot behind and made many sacrifices since converting in 2024, and I don’t want this to push me away. I feel lost and confused. If you’ve been through something similar, or have gentle advice or perspectives rooted in our deen, I’d really appreciate it. JazakAllahu khair, and Allah knows best.