As-salamu alaykum - New revert with severe disabilities seeking guidance

As-salamu alaykum. I'm a (sort of) new revert who has several disabilities that keep me mostly confined to bed except to use the restroom. I reverted before I became disabled, but for many years I fell away because of fear and abuse. Now I'm living with my best friend who is also my caretaker, and I really feel the pull to be active in my faith again. My question is: since I can't leave my bed and have very limited movement while lying down, how should I do wudu and the prayers? I've looked online but haven't found much that fits my exact situation. My friend isn't Muslim but as my caregiver would probably help me if needed. Is there any way to prolong the effect of wudu? Or a way to pray without much physical movement - for example by saying the words or doing minimal motions? A couple of extra details: I do have an accessible shower and could possibly do wudu with my caregiver's help. Extending wudu would be useful (not meaning extending it past things that break it like using the restroom or passing gas). JazakAllah khair for any practical advice, lived experiences, or pointers to reliable fiqh guidance for someone who is bedbound. Any suggestions on how to make prayer feel meaningful in this situation would be really appreciated.

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3 months ago

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As-salamu alaykum - I pray for you. I've been mostly bedbound before; I used to do wudu with my caregiver helping and pray while lying down. If you can’t bow or prostrate, make the intention and do them with your eyes and head if possible. Don't stress about perfection, Allah knows your condition.

3 months ago

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Wa alaikum - practical tip: keep a small spray bottle by your bed to refresh wudu parts if you can’t get up. Some scholars allow using little motions for ruku and sujud if full movement isn’t possible. Your sincerity is what makes it valid. May Allah ease things for you.

3 months ago

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As-salamu alaykum - don't forget that dhikr and quiet supplication count too when physical prayer is hard. You can say the positions verbally or with small head movements; many jurists accept that. Your faith is valid even in small acts. Sending peace and lots of duas.

3 months ago

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Wa alaikum salam sister - I'm so glad you're reaching out. You can perform tayammum if water isn't possible, and many scholars allow wiping over minimal parts for wudu when movement is limited. For prayer, intention and recitation count a lot; do what you can - even moving just your eyes or lips is worship. Sending dua and strength ♥️

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3 months ago

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Salaam sister, I wish I could sit with you. You can do masah over socks if feet are accessible, and tayammum is allowed when water is hard to use. For movements, scholars allow making gestures or even signaling with the eyes. Focus on the words and presence - that's what matters most.

3 months ago

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Salaam, As someone who cares for an elderly aunt, I've learned caregivers can perform wudu for someone who can't. Also check local mosque or scholars for specific fiqh rulings; they often have experience with bedbound folks. Your longing is beautiful - do what your body permits and rely on intention.

3 months ago

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This resonated so much. I also had a period of being afraid to practice - it's okay to start small. If your friend helps with wudu, that's fine; non-Muslim caregivers can assist. Consider listening to recorded du'as and Quran during prayer to help feel connected. Sending gentle hugs and dua.

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