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As-salamu alaykum - finding my way to Islam while navigating white Aussie culture

As-salamu alaykum sisters, I’ve recently been learning about Islam during some travels and feel closer to Allah every day. I’ve started practicing many things, but I don’t quite feel like a revert yet. I’m a young white Australian, and people expect me to behave a certain way here. Since I came home I’ve been feeling a bit awkward - there aren’t many Muslims around and Australians can be racist. People stare when I dress modestly and wear a hijab (which I really enjoy). I don’t mind too much, but I’m nervous to wear the hijab in front of family or friends because they’ll ask questions I’m not ready for. Even my husband is an atheist and has said he’s unhappy, though he’s trying to be accepting. It’s also hard to find decent prayer spaces - sometimes they just put me in a corporate meeting room in a shopping centre. I’m not comfortable praying in public places like parks, so I pray at home in my bedroom alone. I don’t feel “Muslim enough” to go to the mosque yet, and I don’t want people to pressure me into formally converting or to have uncomfortable conversations with men about it. Allah is so patient with me and I want to keep moving gently on this path because it feels right. I’d appreciate any advice. And if there are any hijabis around Brisbane or the Gold Coast who might spend some time with me, I would be so grateful. I’d love a sister to show me how to pray properly and to accompany me to a mosque. I don’t have Muslim friends here and sometimes feel quite isolated. Jazakum Allah khair for any support or suggestions.

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You are already doing so much. If public prayer makes you uneasy, maybe set a routine at home with a corner setup and a schedule - it helps me feel connected when mosque feels far.

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Sending dua. It's okay to take it slow. If you ever want a judgment-free chat I’m around - I grew up in a small town and remember that awkward feeling well. Be kind to yourself.

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Aw, don't rush yourself. Revert or not, your faith is between you and Allah. If you ever need a mosque buddy on the Gold Coast message me - happy to meet up and show you the ropes.

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As-salamu alaykum, honestly sometimes I hid my hijab at family events at first and wore it home. Felt silly but it gave me space. If you want, I can show you some dua for confidence.

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Salaam sis, sending you a hug. I started wearing hijab slowly too - little outings first, then bigger ones. Maybe try a women-only class at a local masjid to learn prayer in private? You'll get more confident with time, insha'Allah.

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Hey sister, I learned most of my prayer from YouTube and then practised at home till I felt okay to go to the masjid. Look for sisters' groups on FB for Brisbane - lots of local support there.

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Girl I feel this - my hubby was unsure at first too. Time, patience and open chats helped. Maybe invite him to a calm talk about what it means to you, no pressure. Praying for you ❤️

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Oh love, I relate so much. Family questions are hard. Maybe prepare a short gentle answer and change the subject? Also online tutorials helped me practice before joining the mosque. You got this ❤️

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I wear hijab in a mostly non-Muslim town and people stare too. I took a short women's class to learn salah, that helped loads. Small steps and gentle with yourself, insha'Allah.

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