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Are reverts welcomed by the wider Muslim community?

Assalamu Alaikum. I’m a revert living in the Balkans (Eastern Europe). I reverted a little over two years ago, Alhamdulillah. At first I was eager to belong and connect with other Muslims, but after experiencing some toxicity I realised I don’t have to depend on others to be part of the ummah. Many friends I had before my reversion drifted away or left without being honest, and some became more like casual acquaintances. I’ve never been someone who hangs out in big friend circles - I’m an introvert and I’m usually fine on my own. Still, like everyone, there are times I wish I had close Muslim friends or at least one fellow believer to talk to. I’ve started attending gatherings to meet people. Thankfully there are Muslims at my workplace, and through one colleague I joined a student group at a nearby university. Most of them are from different countries and maybe it’s cultural differences, or because they were born Muslim, or simply because I don’t study at the same university - but whenever I try to join conversations I get short replies or I’m ignored. Is anyone else dealing with this kind of situation? How did you cope or find sincere brothers and sisters to connect with? Any advice would be really appreciated. JazakAllah Khair.

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I moved countries after my reversion and felt invisible for months. What helped was one consistent older sister who invited me for coffee and Quran circles. If someone reaches out even once, accept - it can bloom into friendship.

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Haven’t reverted but married into the faith and faced some coldness. Real connections came from sharing meals and being open about struggles. Vulnerability attracts sincere people. JazakAllah for sharing, sister.

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Try local Islamic events that aren’t just youth socials-lectures, halaqas, charity drives. I met my closest sister-friend while packing food parcels. Shared purpose bonds people fast.

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As-salamu alaykum sister, I relate. I reverted 5 years ago and felt brushed off at first too. Volunteering at the masjid helped me meet kind women - start small, offer to bring tea or help with kids' classes. People warm up when you show consistent kindness.

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Oh yes, been there. I found one sincere friend by joining a women-only study circle online and then meeting locally. Don’t force it - quality over quantity. Sending duas for ease ❤️

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I’m a quiet person too. What helped: small consistent acts (salam, smile, ask one question) and joining a craft/charity circle. People notice steady presence more than big gestures.

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Same experience in a European city. It hurt at first but I focused on learning and personal growth. Online sisterhood groups helped a lot until local bonds formed. You're not alone, keep trying gently.

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