Am I wrong for feeling upset when my roommate plays the Qur'an/duas loudly at night?
Assalamu alaikum. I'm a university student sharing a room with another Muslim sister to save money, but it's been really stressful. My roommate is very snappy, passive-aggressive, and hard to set boundaries with. Last semester she used to complain that I snore. I apologized and tried to do what I could, but she'd still wake me at 3 a.m. to tell me I was snoring. I would leave the room and cry because I couldn't sleep, and after that she treated me worse. That was out of my control, but once she talked loudly on the phone with her family at 4 a.m. out of spite. When I asked her to take the call outside she refused, saying she couldn't sleep because of me. I have a lot of mental health stuff - ADHD, anxiety, autism, OCD - and religious OCD and shame make this even harder for me. Lately she's been playing the Qur'an and duas loudly on her phone at night. I would never want to speak ill of the Qur'an, Astaghfirullah, but it wakes me up and then I can't fall back asleep because I fixate on it. She doesn't have headphones with her, apparently left at work, so I can't just suggest she use them. If I bring it up I worry she'll say, "So you have a problem with the Qur'an?" or remind me about my snoring and make me feel hypocritical. I'm walking on eggshells every day. It's too expensive to move or transfer apartments and I can't break my lease, so I have to stay for a few more months. I've tried earplugs but I feel guilty using them during recitation. I don't know what to do. Please give kind, practical advice - I'm really trying and I feel torn between respect for the Qur'an and my own mental well-being.