Alhamdulillah, I think I understand music and Islam now

Assalamu alaikum. Music has always been a big part of my life, so I struggled for a long time to understand why some people say music is haram in Islam. Over the past few years I noticed something about two friends I lived with at different times that helped me see things differently. One friend hardly listened to music. When she felt sad or angry she didn’t stay that way long. She didn’t always talk about her problems, but she tried to stay calm, pray, make dhikr and recite the Qur’an. She told me listening to Qur’an made her feel more peaceful and relaxed. The other friend stayed upset for much longer. She also didn’t share much, but she listened to a lot of songs-songs that matched her mood or helped her forget it. She would shut people out and keep her headphones on almost all the time. I realized I was more like that second friend. When I listened to certain songs I felt: 1) My feelings were represented and therefore valid, 2) I kept being reminded of the wound, 3) I might develop another unhealthy emotion after hearing a song, 4) I started to feel attached to the musician and risked elevating them in my mind. Those things made my negative emotions last longer and sometimes get worse. Worse still, some songs made me feel justified in my choices even when I wasn’t on the right path. That made me worry. With my limited understanding, I think I finally see why music can be considered harmful or even haram in certain situations: it can become a tool of self-destruction when someone is in a fragile state. I could be wrong, so if anyone has different thoughts or experiences, I’d really like to hear them. Jazakkum Allah khair.