A Small Reminder for the Heart
Assalāmu ‘alaykum everyone, Jumu‘ah Mubārak to all my brothers and sisters. I wanted to share something that stuck with me after watching a short reminder: when a believer sins, a black spot is placed on the heart. If they don’t repent and keep repeating the sin, that spot grows and the heart can become dark and hard. Scholars say a hardened heart loses shame and guilt. Little by little, sins start to feel light, and a person might slide into more wrongdoing without realizing it. One of the worst punishments isn’t always visible-it's when disobedience becomes normal in the heart. That thought shook me. It’s so serious that sometimes, even when a clear halal and blessed option is right in front of us, we still pick the wrong thing. I’m sharing this with married people in mind. Islam teaches husbands to care for their wives’ emotional needs, yet often we see the opposite: a husband scrolling for hours, liking and praising non-mahram pictures, while his wife-the halal blessing from Allah-gets no kind words. Looking at non-mahrams is already a sin; admiring and complimenting them while neglecting your spouse makes the heart duller. Imagine if that time and those compliments were given to your wife instead. This is the kind of thing that shows the heart has become numb and people stop noticing their own sins. We also tend to be polite to strangers but rude at home. With family our patience runs out, voices get sharp, and manners slip. If we’re honest, isn’t that a kind of hypocrisy we accepted without thinking? Brothers and sisters, and especially married couples-this is a reminder to myself first: put the phones away sometimes. Sit with your spouse. Say a kind word. Sisters, tell your husband he looks good. Brothers, tell your wife she’s beautiful and thank Allah for her. Be gentle with parents, siblings, and relatives. Wallāhi, we’ve grown ghāfil of the beautiful teachings of our dīn. Small acts of adab and akhlāq shape our hearts-either softening them or making them hard. I felt this reminder was worth sharing.