Why Have We Made Marriage So Difficult, Brother/Sister?

As-salamu alaykum, I'm writing because it feels like we've complicated marriage so much. We're demanding perfect looks, expecting high salaries and wealth, and doubting one another. Even when two people somehow meet those standards and spend a fortune on a wedding, they often fail to honor each other's rights, respect one another, and meet each other's needs. That leads to constant fights, and either divorce or a miserable life together. It seems we've become voluntary servants of shaytan by chasing endless desires. We don't treat marriage as completing the deen or as the halal way to protect oneself from zina and grow closer to Allah. Marriage should be about becoming best friends, encouraging each other's success, and supporting one another. Instead, too many couples make life miserable for each other. Our society has made nikah so difficult that teens and people in their early twenties turn to haram content and self-harmful habits, damaging their spirituality and confidence. Then we wonder why Muslims aren't producing leaders - we've pushed our youth away from halal intimacy and into traps that drain their iman and potential. What have we done? We abandoned the sunnah of early, low-cost nikah, of simpler expectations, of allowing divorce when things truly don't work, and of making it possible for people to remarry and rebuild their lives. May Allah guide us and the whole Ummah. Ameen.