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Sometimes it feels like if I don't make it to Jannah, it's because of my parents

Assalamu alaykum everyone. Both my parents, may Allah guide them, are struggling on a very basic level. They aren't good for each other. My mother has been involved with other men since I was little. The last time I confronted her, she denied it completely and promised to do better, but she never actually apologizes-she just finds ways to twist things to seem right, even trying to make me, her own son, doubt my own memory. She changed her password, but I still see the same man's name pop up. My father, on the other hand, never has enough money and acts like providing for the family is some special favor, not his duty. When I asked him why he had children if he couldn't handle the responsibility, he just said, 'It's my business.' I even tried telling him about my mom's behavior, and he turned on me-told me to stay out of it and let her do what she wants. I always thought respecting and honoring parents was straightforward. We grow up hearing that pleasing them is a path to Allah's pleasure. But now, my biggest test is trying to make them proud, and honestly, I don't think it's ever going to happen. They see me as an investment and a chance to fix their past. Of course I want to succeed and help them, but they've made it feel like a heavy obligation, not something coming from my heart. My mom can't keep anything private. Any small issue, she immediately tells her sister, thinking we're more afraid of her sister's opinion than hers. Alhamdulillah, I don't really have enemies. For 23 years, no one has wanted to ruin my life-except, lately, I feel like my own parents are becoming my biggest obstacle. Their main goal is to get me to move to another country, by any means, and send money back to them. When I try to discuss it, to say I want to continue my studies (which I had to pause because they pushed me to work) and build a respectful life here, they suddenly get headaches, call me the 'shaytan' of the family, and start yelling so they don't have to listen. She pressures me every single day about leaving the country. Seriously, how am I supposed to gain Allah's pleasure with parents like this? Is there something in the Quran or Hadith that could help me understand my situation better? Because if not, it feels like I've got a one-way ticket to the bottom of Jahannam.

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Brother, your situation is tough. Keep making sincere dua for them. Allah knows your struggles and won't punish you for their actions. Focus on your deen and your studies.

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Man, that's heavy. Stay strong and keep your intentions pure. Your responsibility is to be respectful, but your own deeds are your own. May Allah make it easy.

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