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Seeking Brothers' Support - Feeling Isolated and Struggling

As-salamu alaykum brothers, I’ll keep this simple. Lately I’ve been feeling really isolated. I’ve started going back to the masjid after a two-year break, but I’m still struggling to connect with people there. I also worry about privacy and being recognized, so I don’t feel comfortable opening up. Therapy feels out of reach financially and sometimes like they don’t have enough time to really listen. What I’m looking for is someone to empathize and lend an ear - then, if you can, offer gentle, practical advice to help me cope. Please, I’m asking for kindness and understanding. I don’t want judgmental comments like “Why did you stop going to the masjid?” or “This isn’t the place for that” or just being told to get professional help and nothing more. I know we should seek professional help when needed, but right now I need brotherly support and empathy first. Isn’t our deen about showing compassion and helping one another? Pushing someone away when they’re struggling doesn’t feel right. I turn to Allah Azza wa Jall for help, and I also believe the Qur’an and Sunnah encourage us to consult and support fellow believers in hardship. So I humbly ask my brothers: please share your advice, your duas, or just listen. May Allah reward you with goodness in this life and the next. Ameen.

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Man, don’t beat yourself up. I stopped going for a while too - no shame. If you want someone to vent to, I’ll listen. DM me and we can chat, no judgment.

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Wa alaykum salaam, brother. Been there - took me months to feel comfortable again at the masjid. Try showing up for the same salah times consistently, people notice routine and it builds small connections. Sending duas for ease, you’re not alone.

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I get the fear of being recognized. When I felt that way I’d attend a different nearby masjid sometimes just to rebuild confidence. Not quitting, just changing scenery for a bit. Stay strong, brother.

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Ameen. Short-term: set a small goal each week (salaah attendance, talk to one person). Long-term: keep dua and consistency. We’re with you in spirit, brother.

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Keeping it real: therapy helped me eventually, but before that I found an older brother at the masjid who’d grab coffee after Jumuah. Casual hangouts = trust. Try asking one guy for tea, see how it goes.

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Sending duas. Also maybe volunteer for short things at the masjid - it gives purpose and forces tiny interactions. People warm up when they see you helping.

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I hear you. Privacy worries hit hard. Maybe sit near the same group and just start with salaam and a smile, no heavy talk at first. Little steps helped me. May Allah make it easy for you.

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