Salaam - Struggling to Let Go and Stop Blaming Myself After Sudden Silence, Need Advice

Assalamu alaikum, I’m a 30-year-old man and I’ve been stuck in a mental loop I want to break. I keep noticing the same pattern in my relationships and friendships: when things change abruptly, I can’t move on and I immediately start blaming myself. Logically I know I should let go, but my emotions don’t cooperate. Example: I was chatting regularly with a sister. Conversations were normal, mutual, and steady. Then out of nowhere it stopped. No fight, no warning-just silence. After a couple of days I sent a short message to check if she was okay. No reply. It’s been over a week now. I know, rationally, that silence is an answer and people don’t owe explanations. I know the healthy thing is to move forward. But emotionally I’m stuck. My head keeps running through scenarios: - Did I say something wrong? - Was I too much? - Should I send one more message to ask for clarity? I also know another message would probably hurt my dignity and self-respect. Still, the urge is strong and that inner tug-of-war is draining. This isn’t just about her; it’s about how I handle endings. I tend to internalize blame. When something ends suddenly, I assume it’s my fault. I’m bad with uncertainty, and silence feels heavier than an explicit rejection. I don’t want to be someone who chases closure at the cost of self-respect. I want to learn how to: - Accept silence without turning it into self-blame - Detach emotionally when no explanation is given - Stop tying someone’s disappearance to my own worth If anyone has faced the same thing or found ways-maybe through faith, reflection, or practical steps-to break this cycle, I’d really appreciate your advice. JazakAllah khair for reading.