Salaam - Feeling lonely and seeking advice
Assalameuleikum, please read and give me some advice. I'm a man living in a part of Italy with almost no Muslim community and no mosque. For three years I've been renting an apartment and living alone. Alhamdulillah, by Allah's mercy I'm financially stable, working and studying at university. I have a roof, food, and even access to a gym. My background: I'm a war refugee. My parents died when I was young and I was taken to the Balkans, where a kind older Muslim man adopted and raised me in Italy. He passed away when I was a child - may Allah reward him and grant him Jannah. Growing up I struggled to make friends because of language barriers, and high school was full of fitna that confused me. I spent a long time with some Italian friends but left that circle when I saw them doing haram things. It's been about six years since I cut those ties, and I'm very lonely. I don't have Muslim friends and I want to get married, but I don't know how to go about it. I read the Qur'an and pray. I know death is something we all face and that's okay, but I wish my life in this world felt less isolated. I tried meeting people online, but many Muslim chats mix genders or have inappropriate intentions. When I try to talk with other men they often lose interest and pursue women. I'm not judging - maybe they need to marry - but I just wish I had a sincere brother to speak with. Since I'm financially secure and have a place, I'd like to get married, yet I don't know how to find a suitable spouse. Looking for a partner online feels unreliable and too focused on appearance. I'm tall, and when I mention my height I get many messages, but when I don't, I get none. That doesn't feel like the right way to find a spouse. I use social media but keep a low profile as Islam advises. I could remain single my whole life for the sake of Allah, and I would try to be content, but it would be harder. I'm thinking about moving since my job is remote and my studies are flexible, but I don't know where to go to find a Muslim community. If you read this, Jazakum Allahu khairan. May Allah bless you and guide me. Sorry for my English.