Respecting parents is part of our deen, but what about when their words harm our mental health?

Assalamu alaikum. I've grown up hearing harsh words from my parents, not constantly, but often enough. It has taken a toll on my mental state, to the point where I struggle with depression. This isn't new; even as a child, I saw a lot of arguments at home. I hold deep respect for my parents, as our faith teaches, but when the verbal abuse happens, it's so hard to stay calm. Honestly, I'm just completely mentally drained. I can't even remember what it feels like to be truly happy and at peace.