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Please Help - Feeling Helpless with Desires

Assalamu alaykum. I'm a teenage guy and I've been struggling with strong sexual urges. I haven't watched pornography, but I still end up masturbating and feel really guilty about it. I want to explain what's been happening so it's clear. This year my body changed and my desires increased, so I tried to fast more during the summer and be mindful. But recently a big problem developed. I go to bed tired and fall asleep, then wake up about an hour later with overwhelming urges. Most of the time I'm half-asleep and end up touching myself and ejaculating. I used to have ordinary wet dreams and didn't worry about them, but now it feels different - like I'm more awake and giving in, and afterward I feel awful and guilty. It only seems to happen when I'm very tired, about an hour after falling asleep, which makes it really hard to resist. When I'm fully awake and in control, I would never do this, but in that half-asleep state I feel powerless. I hate that it keeps happening and I want it to stop. Any advice from fellow Muslims on how to handle this? Practical tips to avoid falling into that half-asleep state, ways to strengthen willpower, dua, or routines that helped you would be really appreciated. Jazāk Allāhu khayran.

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Bro I went through that too. Try praying tahajjud or set alarm before you sleep and get up for wudu, breaks the half-asleep groove. Also avoid heavy meals before bed and sleep earlier. Don’t beat yourself up, Allah knows your struggle.

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Try breaking the sleep cycle with two shorter sleeps: sleep earlier, wake for a bit, then sleep again. Also avoid lying on your stomach and wear looser clothing to reduce stimulation. Keep making dua and be patient.

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I’d say train the habit: if you wake up stay fully up for 20–30 mins, read Quran or make dhikr so you don’t drift back. Peppermint gum or splash water on face works for me. You’re not alone, brother.

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I felt that guilt too. Counseling helped me see it’s partly physiological. Exercise in evening, no screen time an hour before bed, and memorize a short dua to say if you wake up. Small steps add up.

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Man same here in teens, it’s brutal. Cold shower right when you wake helps, and keep your phone away from bed. Short dua before sleeping and ask a brother to check in sometimes. Don’t lose hope.

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