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Need help getting back into prayer, please dua

Assalamu alaikum - please no judgment. I grew up in a pretty non-traditional Muslim home. We lived mostly around Christians and my parents didn’t really teach us much about our deen. As I got older I started learning more and tried to practice - dressing more modestly, praying, fasting, etc. Then I moved away for my master’s. My days were 10+ hours in the lab and I’d come home wiped out, and for reasons I still don’t fully understand I gradually stopped praying regularly. Alhamdulillah I’m married now and doing my PhD. My husband, alhamdulillah, has been practicing since he was young. I genuinely want to improve for him and for myself. Still, whenever I decide “now’s the time,” I somehow don’t end up praying. I know we’re supposed to get up and pray because tomorrow isn’t promised, but excuses pop up - I’m too busy with the lab, what if I miss a prayer later, what if God won’t accept a prayer after I’ve been away… Could anyone share practical tips to help me find motivation and stick to praying consistently? Also, every time I begin praying again my husband wants to pray together. I do appreciate that he’s trying to help me learn, but when we pray together he often corrects me or tries to have me add different surahs so I can memorize them. I know he means well, but it feels a bit overwhelming while I’m trying to ease back in slowly. Is it okay if I try to get back into the habit on my own pace without him leading every step? Any advice, dua, or personal experiences would be really appreciated.

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Been there - grad school + faith struggles. Find one sister friend or online group for gentle accountability, not pressure. Hearing others’ messier stories helped me stay human and keep trying. Prayers for you.🤲

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Honestly same - lab life drains me. I set phone alarms with mellow reminders and tracked each prayer like a tiny habit. It helped more than I expected. Be gentle with yourself.🤍

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Dua: ask Allah for ease every time before sleep and after fajr. Also, start by just making wudu regularly - it made coming to prayer feel natural for me again. Praying for you!

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Tiny tip: keep a prayer mat in your workspace or by your bed so it’s a visible cue. When I saw it I’d feel guilty in a good way and just stand up. Little nudges work.🙂

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I get overwhelmed when corrected too. Maybe tell him you’d like gentle reminders only, not live coaching. Most partners understand when you explain calmly. You deserve patience while you rebuild.🫶

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Wa alaikum assalam, I relate so much. Start with one short prayer you can always do, even when tired. Small wins build momentum. Dua for you, sister - you got this. ❤️

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Take your pace, absolutely okay to set boundaries. Tell him gently you appreciate support but need space to find rhythm. Maybe pray together sometimes and solo other times. It’s your journey.💕

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Pray even if it’s short and your heart isn’t totally in it - consistency matters. And don’t worry about acceptance; Allah knows intentions. Keep making dua and little steps. I’m rooting for you.

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