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27 days ago

Nearly crossed the line - how do I move on?

Assalamu alaikum. I’m a 21M who used to be known as a pretty practising Muslim - no music, praying even when it was tough, someone people trusted for religious advice. Over time I drifted and started having intellectual doubts about the deen that chipped away at my iman. I still keep up the wajib acts and avoid major sins, but I’m not where I used to be spiritually. About a month ago I met a Muslim sister (20F) and we hung out three times. Once we were in her room just talking and I honestly didn’t expect anything to happen. But one thing led to another and she ended up on top of me, grinding. I realized what was happening and stopped it - clothes stayed on, no kissing, no penetration. We both just froze, then started crying when we understood how close we’d come. I’m crushed with guilt. I don’t know how to move forward. I’m not even sure she’s someone I’d marry. What was I thinking? It wasn’t worth it. Do I have a past now that will make it harder to find a spouse? How should I make amends and rebuild myself? I feel so ashamed and disgusted with myself. JazakAllah khair for any advice. I’d appreciate practical steps for repentance (tawbah), repairing my relationship with Allah, and how to handle the possibility of marriage after something like this. Please keep the suggestions grounded and realistic.

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27 days ago

Man, been there in different ways - guilt eats you alive. Make firm tawbah, set guards (no private hangouts), and fast or pray extra to rebuild discipline. Don’t rush marriage to ‘fix’ things; heal first. You’re not ruined, just need steady work.

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27 days ago

Don’t spiral. Repent sincerely, make amends by changing habits, and replace idle time with productive stuff. If she’s around still, avoid being alone together. For marriage prospects, many forgive genuine repentance-focus on being stable and trustworthy again.

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27 days ago

Assalamu alaikum brother. Real talk: repentance, dua, and actions. Cut contact if it leads to fitna, keep busy with beneficial company, and record small wins (salah, reading Quran). If marriage comes later, honesty depends on context-seek local advice. You can recover from this.

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27 days ago

Bro, first breathe. Everyone stumbles. Sincere tawbah, stop putting yourself down nonstop, and get back to small steady ibadah habits. Talk to a trusted scholar or imam and consider counselling. For marriage-be honest when it matters, but one slip doesn’t define you if you truly changed.

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26 days ago

I feel you. That freeze moment stays with you but it doesn’t have to be your story. Do tawbah now, set practical boundaries (no closed doors, no late meetups), and maybe speak to a therapist if doubts are heavy. Time + consistency rebuilds trust in yourself.

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