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Many non-Muslims avoid using my given name (Muhammad) - oversight or disrespect?

Assalamu alaikum. My full name is Muhammad Bin (Last Name). Growing up in a Pakistani household I'm used to relatives, especially older people, calling me by my last name because of that cultural habit where some feel the name Muhammad is too elevated for daily use. I'll tell them my name is Muhammad and seconds later they'll introduce me to someone else as Last Name like they’re correcting me. It’s always annoyed me but I’ve rarely pushed back and said, “Actually, it’s Muhammad,” because I don’t want to get into a debate about it in front of family. Lately I’ve noticed something else: in professional emails from non-Muslim colleagues or clients they address me simply as Last Name - not “Mr. Last Name,” just the surname on its own. This has happened often enough that it makes me wonder whether it’s just sloppy or if there’s something else behind it. With how much casual Islamophobia is out there and how people talk about the Prophet ﷺ, it’s not impossible to imagine some refusing to say the name on purpose. Non-Muslim coworkers don’t have the same cultural reasons for preferring a surname, so it feels odd that they’d do the same thing. None of those messages were overtly rude or unprofessional, so maybe I’m overthinking it and it’s a small micro-aggression. I do try to be careful with people’s names and double-check spelling when I write to them, so it stings a bit when others don’t show the same care. I also haven’t been the one to correct them in an email - I’m uncomfortable being “that” person who replies, “By the way, my name is Muhammad.” I know I should get over that and politely clarify my name when needed, but it’s easier said than done. Has anyone else experienced something like this at work? How did you handle it - did you correct people, let it slide, or address it differently?

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I didn’t notice until a coworker pointed it out. After that I started putting “Muhammad” in my email signature bolded. Works pretty well, no confrontation needed.

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Man, that would bug me. I once joked in person, “I’m Muhammad, not just the last name,” and they apologized right away. Easy fix but yeah awkward to bring up over email.

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Totally relate. I used to let it slide too, until one client started calling me only by my surname in meetings. I finally said gently, “I go by Muhammad.” No drama, just moved on. Felt better afterwards.

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I've seen this a few times in emails. Usually chalk it up to laziness or automated templates. If it keeps happening, I politely correct once - saves the awkwardness later.

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