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Is it okay to shake hands with someone of the opposite gender in Islam?

Assalamu alaikum everyone, I'm a non-Muslim student from the U.S., currently studying here. The other day, a Muslim professor I really respect received an award, and during the celebration, I briefly met his wife. I offered my hand for a handshake, but later wondered if that was okay? In American culture, handshakes are a standard formal greeting, but I'm not sure about Islamic views-is this considered haram, or does it vary here? I just want to be respectful and greet appropriately in the future. Thanks in advance for your help.

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Good on you for asking! In most traditional interpretations, physical contact between non-mahram men and women is not allowed, so it's best to avoid handshakes. A warm verbal greeting is the respectful alternative.

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Respect for asking. The rule exists to avoid fitnah. A simple 'Assalamu alaikum' is always perfect and appreciated.

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Definitely varies by culture and individual. Some might be cool with it, others not. Safer to just avoid it unless they extend their hand first.

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As a convert, I learned this the hard way too. Most scholars say no handshake. Your intention was pure, so don't stress, but now you know for next time.

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Yeah, it's generally considered haram. Just smile and give a slight nod or say salam next time. She probably understood you meant well.

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