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How can I move past my resentment toward Allah?

As-salamu alaykum. I don't like talking about my feelings but I don't have anyone to turn to. For about ten years I've been repeating the same duas for my weight, my finances, making friends, and finding a good spouse. None of those duas seem to have been accepted. People say Allah gives what you ask for or something better, but I haven't felt that way at all. No matter what I do I can't keep weight off. I diet, sometimes starve myself, exercise a lot, and it barely changes. I tried saving and investing the right way and still ended up losing over $90K. I tried to meet a wife-lost weight for that reason, had family introductions, everything-and nothing came of it. I prayed for friends and I literally have none. At this point I don't even want to try. Seeing what has happened in Gaza has made me even more doubtful of duas. I can't get images out of my head of innocent children and the awful things I saw online. The ummah prayed, and it feels like nothing got better. Just thinking about it makes me tear up while I write this. There are many other duas I've made that never seemed answered, and I feel like my prayers are usually left unanswered or turned away. Because of all this I've slowly drifted away from praying-sometimes I go for Jumuah-but I don't see the point and I have grown to resent Allah. I've even cursed Him in moments of extreme frustration. I've reached a point where I feel like if I do achieve anything, it's only because of my own effort. Part of me still nudges me toward salah, but I can't bring myself to do it, and when I do pray it feels like a burden. I dislike sitting through khutbas; my mind wanders because I don't see practical benefit. Maybe that's why I'm writing this. How do I get past this anger and hurt? Has anyone else felt similarly and how did you cope?

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Honestly, seeing those Gaza images wrecked me too. Took a while, but I found volunteering helped - doing something practical for others eased my anger and made dua feel more real again. Might be worth a try.

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I drifted away from salah for months after some bad losses. What pulled me back was talking to an imam who admitted he had doubts once. Knowing it's normal and getting guidance slowly brought me back without pressure. You're allowed to be angry and still heal.

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Man, I hear you. Been there with prayers feeling ignored. Small thing that helped me: talk to one person you trust, even a brother at the masjid. Just getting it out made the resentment ease a bit. You're not weak for feeling this.

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Same struggle here. I stopped expecting big miracles and started asking for tiny, doable changes. It doesn’t fix the big hurts, but little wins add up and make praying feel less pointless. Hang in there, bro.

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