Feeling overlooked by my family while planning our trip-where do I stand Islamically?
Salaam, everyone. I’m in my 20s and we’re headed on a family trip to Japan, Alhamdulillah. My parents covered the major expenses like flights and hotels, but other costs are on each of us. The tricky part? My mom announced she’s giving a "vacation allowance" to all my working siblings-except me. Her reasoning? I’m "independent" and have savings. Even my recently married brother and his wife got it. It’s not about the money; it’s about feeling singled out in a family gesture, like I’m not fully part of the family. I couldn’t help but wonder, "Am I not her child?" But it gets harder. Despite being the only one without an allowance, I’ve been made the unpaid trip planner. My tasks include: researching the whole itinerary, finding Halal restaurants for every meal, checking visa rules, and handling tech support for everyone. I asked my sister to book the meals since I found all the places, but she just sent the info back saying she didn’t want to call Japan. Then my dad asked me to log into his email for a car rental confirmation, my brother wanted me to book and pay for his attraction tickets, and my mom asked me to manage her passport and check her items for Japan’s restrictions. Last Jumu’ah, I offered to help everyone with their immigration QR codes if they sent details by a certain time. No one replied. So I did mine, closed my laptop, and have left the family chat on read since. I’m exhausted from work, especially after night shifts, and I just can’t be a free secretary anymore. Now I’m stuck between guilt and frustration. Am I wrong for stepping back and letting them figure things out? I feel guilty, especially toward my parents who handled the finances, but I’m at my limit. In my prayers after Fard, I keep asking Allah to take over because I’m overwhelmed. My bigger concern: Is this sinful, especially ignoring my parents? Will I be judged for this? TL;DR: Mom skipped me on a vacation allowance for being "independent," but the whole family expects me as their free trip planner. I’ve stopped responding, and now I feel guilty but deeply resentful.