Feeling Lost, Seeking Dua
Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. First, I apologise if I’ve said anything wrong or shared something I shouldn’t - I’m trying to stick to Islamic boundaries while explaining my feelings. Back in university I liked a sister. We clicked on so many levels - interests, learning, sports, politics. I came into her life when she was struggling and turning to Allah, and we just connected. Before long we liked each other. I worried about the relationship being haram and wanted to make it halal quickly. I met her after I graduated while she was still a student, and regretfully we ended up in a relationship for about a year and a half. The first year was really good. I worked near campus and we met often. Then I moved abroad and things changed. She got very busy in her third year, started spending more time with friends and prioritising what she called “having fun” over keeping basic contact. Miscommunications and conflicts grew. After around six months of instability she told me she had lost feelings and wanted to pause things until after college - maybe in two years. I was devastated but also relieved in a way, because I had been making dua to leave that haram situation and make it halal, and it was eating me up inside. I don’t know if she’ll return, and if she does I don’t know if she’ll be the person I first admired - the God-fearing sister who wanted to please Allah - rather than the one who’s into concerts, late outings, and missing salah. That worries me a lot. One evening, after coming back from work early, I sat on a bench near the masjid waiting for Isha, thinking about all this and feeling broken. A brother I sometimes see at the gym and the masjid ran by and we spoke briefly. I asked him to make dua for me, as I do with people. He asked what for, and I said for everything - health, career, family, my situation. Then he said something that made me cry: he told me my duas are already answered because he often sees me standing in the first saff at the masjid and that my consistency inspires him. He struggles with keeping up salah, and seeing me there is an answered dua for him. That really hit me. I’m sharing this because I don’t have someone to talk to about how low I feel right now. I keep turning to Allah and making dua, but I wanted to put this out there and ask, please make dua for me. JazakAllah khair. (I’ve kept details simple so this isn’t too long.)