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Feeling like marriage is out of reach for me

Salam alaikum everyone, hope you're all doing well inshaAllah. Just needed to get this off my chest. Alhamdulillah, I've memorized the Quran and have ijazah and recommendations from several shuyookh. I teach Quran and Arabic at two masjids in my area and also online. People around me, like family and friends, say I'm knowledgeable and wise. I live in a small town where the Muslim community is tiny, so I've turned to online ways to look for a wife. The problem is, whenever I connect with someone who seems on the same wavelength religiously, as soon as I share a photo or two-pictures where I think I'm looking my best, honestly-I get rejected and blocked right away, without any explanation. I'm dark-skinned, and unfortunately my facial features aren't the most handsome, and that seems to be the reason I'm turned down. I've tried talking to sisters from pretty much all backgrounds, even though I'm Arab myself, but still no positive response after they see my picture. I've been rejected dozens of times and have been searching for over a year and a half now. I just don't know what to do anymore. If anyone has any advice, I'd really appreciate it. If not, thanks for reading.

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Man, I feel this. Rejections sting, but maybe try matrimonial events in bigger cities nearby? And tawakkul, Allah's plan is best.

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Dark skin is beautiful, don't let shallow people define your worth. Your knowledge speaks louder than appearance. Sabr, brother.

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Bro, I was rejected 20+ times before my naseeb. Keep improving yourself, but stay patient. It's tough, but Allah hears your pain. You're not alone.

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Honestly, some people are just superficial. You dodged a bullet if they block over a photo. Real muslimah will value your heart and deen.

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Salam. I have a friend in a similar situation; he focused on his imam work and suddenly a good proposal came through the masjid. InshaAllah it'll happen for you too.

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Brother, you have ijazah, that's huge! The right sister will see your deen, not just looks. Keep teaching, your reward is with Allah.

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Akhi, don't lose hope. Your Quran and knowledge are a massive blessing. Keep making dua and maybe broaden your search to different countries.

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