Feeling Completely Drained - Need Dua and Support, Assalamu Alaikum
Assalamu alaikum, I'm a 24-year-old man living in Birmingham, UK. I feel utterly exhausted by life and it's taking a toll on me inside and out. I have autism, epilepsy, anxiety, panic attacks and agoraphobia. I take medication for seizures, but the fear of having another one wears me down. I feel so tired all the time. I'm on benefits and feel ashamed because I'm the oldest in my family while my siblings are at university - my brother is finishing his third year and my sister just started. My parents don't show much care and they say very hurtful things to me, especially when I have seizures. My dad can be very cruel and starts petty arguments that turn into fights. He compares me to others, calls me names like “loser” and “failure,” and even wishes death on me. He blames my mum for not having a “better” son and then my mum ends up blaming me too. I try to go out sometimes - shopping centres, parks, short walks, and occasionally to the mosque - but I often collapse into a seizure and my dad gets angry and blames me even though I can't control it. I'm trying my best to live and to cope, but it hurts that my dad seems to care more about what others think than fearing Allah. I pray five times a day, wake up for tahajjud, and make sincere dua for myself and for all Muslims. I do dhikr and istighfar regularly. I've been applying for jobs in recruitment, IT, customer service and administration, and for IT apprenticeships level 3 and 4, but I keep getting rejected. Academically I've done well - I achieved outstanding grades in my BTEC courses and was once student of the year. I try to build hobbies like learning more about Islam and studying new languages. I still have dreams of succeeding, having a stable future, and helping others. My parents' relationship with prayer is inconsistent, and sometimes they lecture me about praying even though I do my five daily prayers and tahajjud. My dad told me that I wouldn't reach Jannah through him - while he acts wrongly, swears, and mocks others, yet assumes he'll be saved. I no longer go to certain mullahs, sheikhs or scholars because past advice felt unhelpful - I was told to “grow up” or just “be patient” or to always side with my dad, and some seemed more interested in money than guidance. So I focus on my own ruqyah, tahajjud, reciting Quran, and relying on Allah for help and guidance. I'm sharing this because I need dua, advice, and maybe practical suggestions from fellow Muslims who understand dealing with chronic illness, family abuse, and trying to stay strong in faith. What can I do to cope better day-to-day, seek work that suits my situation, and find supportive community or services in the UK that are understanding of my conditions? JazakAllahu khairan for any help or duas.