Balancing Work, Family, and Faith: Tips for Muslim Couples Raising Children in the West

As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. I am a software professional working in a demanding job that consumes most of my mental energy on weekdays. My wife is a devoted stay-at-home mother, and we have two young children. Since our marriage, emotionally things have become challenging because my wife, staying at home, depends on me heavily for emotional support. I rarely go out or engage in social activities due to fatigue and partly because my wife feels lonely when I leave. I had hoped that after having children, she would be more occupied and less reliant on me, but despite being busy from morning till night, our home feels noisy and lacks tranquility. I find it difficult to leave the house except for prayer times as my wife feels alone when I am away. I have become inactive, gained weight, and feel irritable. We often argue about not experiencing life like others and how she is raising the children mostly on her own while I am focused on work. The joy of marriage seems diminished, and it feels more like a responsibility than a blessing. In my demanding profession, I struggle to find time or energy to spend with my children. I see some colleagues who manage both work and family well, but I feel unable to do so. I seek advice on how to increase happiness for myself and my family, strengthen our bond, and reduce tension. Any guidance rooted in Islamic teachings and practical steps to balance work, family, and faith would be greatly appreciated.