Assalamu alaikum - Where do I go from here?
Assalamu alaikum. I’m 26, a Muslim man living in Denmark, and I was born with cerebral palsy. Alhamdulillah I manage most things on my own and I’m fairly independent. I’ve never been married or in a relationship. Like many, I’m trying to find a life partner, but it’s been really tough and it’s taken a toll on me. I’m a sensitive, passionate person and I’ve always felt that people notice my disability first instead of getting to know me. My family is South Asian and I’m proud of that, but when it comes to marriage proposals I often feel sidelined because of my condition. That thought really hurts. My family supports me, but they’re reluctant to ask around because they worry people will say no. That makes me feel even more alone. I’ve tried apps and Muslim community groups and other ways to meet people, but nothing has worked so far. I’m open to someone from a different background or madhhab - what I care about is that she believes in Allah, takes faith seriously, and wants to build a religious life together. I would respect her path and hope she’d respect mine. Honesty, sincerity, and being genuine are what matter to me most. I’m looking for advice or experiences from others: how did you meet your spouse or partner? Are there practical steps I can take here in Denmark or through trusted Muslim networks? Any tips for families who are shy to ask around on behalf of a relative with a disability? JazakAllah khair for any guidance - I really appreciate it.