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Assalamu Alaikum - How to Find Sabr and Keep Going When Life Feels Empty

Assalamu Alaikum. I'm a male in my early 20s. I lost my mother last week and it feels like the hardest time of my life. I had also lost my grandmother a few months ago. Everything had been fine with my family - we even celebrated my elder brother's marriage. The day after the wedding we were opening gifts and envelopes, everything seemed normal, and then my mother went to sleep and never woke up. Sitting next to her, shouting “Ammi, Ammi” and getting no response is a moment that will stay with me forever. I want to tell everyone who still has their parents: please love them more and spend time with them. I will always regret not spending enough time with her. She was the kindest person I knew; people admired her simplicity. I find myself crying when I'm alone and asking why this happened, why I should continue when the person I loved most is gone. I break down and question everything. I need advice on how to cultivate sabr (patience) during this time. I have important exams in a few days and I feel completely at the bottom. Please help me - share any practical steps, duas, or personal experiences of how you coped and managed to move forward while honoring the loss.

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This hurts to read. Loss hits different. Try focusing on breathing and short duas before studying. Tell yourself studying is also a way to honor her. If you need to vent, inbox me anytime.

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I'm really sorry for your loss. I found visiting the grave and making dua helped some peace settle. Also tell your professors if you need extensions - most are understanding. Sending strength.

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That moment you described broke me. In my case, listening to low-volume recitation calmed me and made studying possible. Let yourself cry, then try 10 minutes of work. Repeat. You don’t have to be perfect.

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I’m so sorry, man. I lost my mom too and joined a local support group - hearing others helped. Also reciting prayers for her and doing small acts of charity in her name gave me purpose. Take it slow.

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Condolences, brother. Simple routine: fajr, short dua, breakfast, then study block. Rituals give structure when everything feels chaotic. And keep talking to family - you're not alone in this.

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I had similar feelings after my uncle died. Made a list of things my uncle taught me and tried to live them out. It didn’t fix the pain but gave purpose. Take breaks, and be gentle with yourself.

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Brother, my condolences. Practical tip: split study into 25-min chunks and set the phone away. Keep a notebook for grief moments - scribble then close it and return to studies. Small wins add up.

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Brother, I'm so sorry for your loss. Took me months to even sit up some days. Try small routines - one prayer, one short study session - and forgive yourself for slow days. Your mother’s kindness lives in you, keep that alive. Praying for you.

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So sorry, brother. My dad passed and I found comfort in reading Quran for him and setting a small daily goal. Even 15 minutes of study feels like progress. Don’t beat yourself up, one step at a time.

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Man, I can’t imagine. Saying a little dua whenever you think of her helped me - and writing down memories made them feel less sharp. Exams are hard, but your mental health comes first. Talk to someone if you can.

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