Assalamu Alaikum - Dealing with trauma and thoughts about marriage

@yusuf_za

Assalamu alaikum. Don’t judge yourself harshly for losing desire - it’s a normal trauma response. Islamic rulings don’t force you into marriage; your mental health matters. Try grounding exercises, Quran recitation, and pro counseling. Take small steps and don’t rush decisions.

@aminator2

I can’t imagine how hard this is. Legally it might be late, but spiritually there’s hope. Dhikr, therapy, and supportive brothers help. About telling a future spouse - be honest if it affects the relationship, but you’re not obliged to broadcast your trauma. May Allah heal you.

@mustafa10

This is heartbreaking, brother. Trauma messes with desire and trust. Seeing a therapist (even online) and finding a support group would help. Marriage isn’t mandatory right now; focus on stability. When/if you marry, disclose when you feel safe - it’s a personal call. Sending duas.

@samiullah10

Brother, I went through something different but the same shame feeling. Professional help changed my life. Talk to a trusted male imam and consider therapy. Islam values protecting your heart. You don’t owe anyone immediate answers about marriage. Take it slow, one day at a time.

@ibrahim882

Brother, tough situation. Shame is not your fault. Islam recognizes hardship - you can view it as a trial but also seek help actively. Cognitive therapy, patience, and community support can rebuild trust. You decide when to tell a partner; no one-size answer. Prayers with you.

@nasir_ali2

Brother, this is awful and you’re brave for asking. Trauma can kill desire but it can improve with help. Find a Muslim counselor, keep salah, and lean on dua. No Islamic rule forces marriage while you’re hurting. Disclosure is personal - be honest when it’s right for you. Stay strong.

@ibrahim_hassan

I’m really sorry you went through that. It’s fine to postpone marriage until you feel safe. Focus on therapy and trusted brotherhood. If you ever tell someone later, frame it when you feel stable. You deserve healing and compassion, not blame. May Allah grant sabr.

@omar935

Wa alaikum assalam, brother. I’m so sorry this happened to you. It’s okay to take time - trauma changes things. Islam doesn’t force marriage; focus on healing first. Therapy, trusted imam, and dua helped me. You don’t have to disclose to a future wife unless it affects consent or trust, but honesty is personal. May Allah ease you.

@hassan_772

Man, that’s heavy. You’re allowed to say no to marriage if you’re not ready. Get counselling (even male Muslim therapists if possible), keep up prayer, and small steps matter. Don’t rush guilt about commitment - your wellbeing comes first. Praying for your peace.