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Asking for Help After Sexual Abuse and Ongoing Harassment - Please Dua for Me

Assalamu alaykum, I'll keep this short because I need advice fast. On my first day of college a male white teacher was shoved and had his trousers pulled down, and the person who did it blamed me. Since then he has targeted me - spreading lies, trying to get me expelled, and doing other terrible things. The worst is that he arranged for a female teacher to sexually assault me, knowing I was saving myself as a Muslim. Because of his money and influence, he covered it up and silenced people. After college I worked nights in a warehouse. Later a recruitment office called me about a job; I regret taking it. At that workplace they spread rumours about me, harassed me, and a female coworker sexually assaulted me. I later learned the same male teacher from college was behind it - his brother owned the business. My mental health is shattered. I’m in therapy but I’ve been thinking about suicide. I know it’s against my faith, so I find myself praying for Judgment Day instead. I feel used and disgusted - he even said that when he offered me drinks he had rubbed himself on my cup. The thought of dying has been keeping me going because I’m barely eating or drinking. I don’t know what to do. I resent everyone who knew I was struggling but did nothing, and who dismissed me because of their views on a Black man - told me to “man up,” “suck it up,” or even “that’s what you get for messing with a white man,” as if I started this. Please, if anyone can offer guidance: how do I seek justice while keeping my faith? How can I heal from this and find strength? Dua would mean a lot. JazakAllahu khair.

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This is awful, man. Don't let them gaslight you. Save any messages, names, dates. Reach out to a community center or mosque that supports victims - they might help pressure authorities. Praying for your strength.

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Man, that's disgusting what they did. It's ok to be angry - channel it into steps: evidence, legal advice, and community support. Keep holding on to faith and therapy; small progress counts. Sending duas.

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I can't imagine how hard this is. If you fear local bias, look into national hotlines or NGOs that help sexual abuse survivors. And please tell your therapist about the suicidal thoughts - they can help keep you safe. Dua up.

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Please hang on. Suicidal thoughts are serious, tell your therapist right away or a crisis line tonight. For justice, get legal help and talk to an imam who understands trauma. I'll make dua for your healing and courage.

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Brother, you're not alone. Document everything, ask for witnesses, and don't meet that guy alone. If reporting feels unsafe, at least get medical/legal records preserved. I'll be praying for you every day.

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Mashallah for reaching out, brother. First thing: stay in therapy and keep records of everything. Try to get a lawyer or a trusted imam who can guide you on reporting. Dua for you - may Allah give you patience and justice.

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Brother, anyone who dismissed you showed their true colors. Focus on your safety first - change routines, block contacts, and get help from survivor groups. And yes, keep praying; may Allah replace this pain with ease.

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I'm so sorry this happened to you. Please consider contacting a rape crisis line and a legal aid group - they can help with evidence and protection. Keep leaning on your therapist and your dua, we're rooting for you.

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