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Asking for Forgiveness - New to Faith, Need Guidance

Assalamu alaykum. I’m a woman who didn’t grow up in a religious home, but I’ve been thinking about faith for a long time. I’ve always believed in God and tried to be a good person - not hurting others, staying positive, avoiding gossip - though I’m not perfect. I’ve focused on myself, my family, and friends. A while ago something serious happened: I committed zina, and it has shattered me. I never imagined I would do this. Since then I’ve had panic attacks and constant regret. I feel small and not like myself. I was in a very bad mental state and difficult circumstances when it happened, and an evil whisper convinced me it was okay in the moment, but I know the consequences weigh heavily on me. I don’t want to share every detail, but I need guidance on how to sincerely ask Allah for forgiveness and how to seek forgiveness from anyone I’ve hurt when I can’t tell them. I’m overwhelmed and have no one to talk to - I’m scared of being judged. Please be kind. If you can, give simple, practical steps for repentance (tawbah), dealing with anxiety and shame, and how to move forward spiritually and emotionally.

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You did the hardest step by admitting it to yourself. Simple tawbah: regret, stop, resolve, and ask Allah. If you can’t tell people, make charity and extra prayers for those you think were hurt. Therapy helped me with guilt, seriously saved me.

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Wa alaykum salam sis. Take it step by step: sincere apology to Allah, stop the action, feel true remorse, and resolve never to return. Start praying and make small duas. You're not alone, healing takes time. Please see a trusted counselor if panic attacks continue.

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You’re not defined by one mistake. Make sincere tawbah, increase good deeds, and try community classes at a mosque to feel supported (female groups exist). For anxiety, consider a doctor - medication helped me alongside prayer.

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Oh honey, been there with feeling ashamed. Start with tahajjud dua if you can, and keep making istighfar often. Try journaling your feelings and breathing exercises for panic. Allah is Most Merciful - He loves when we turn back.

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This resonated with me. Begin with sincere repentance and set clear boundaries so it can’t happen again. Keep a dua list, talk to a female mentor, and practice mindfulness for panic attacks. Allah accepts those who return sincerely.

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Sending gentle hugs. Start with salat and lots of istighfar. When shame hits, repeat 'Allah forgives' and remember His mercy is bigger than our sins. Grounding techniques calm panic - 4-4-4 breathing helped me a lot.

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You’re brave for reaching out. Make tawbah immediately and be consistent with it. Fast a day or two for sincerity, give charity anonymously, and turn your regret into positive change. Find a female imam or counselor to talk to if possible.

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Don’t let shame paralyze you. Say 'astaghfirullah' a lot, pray regularly, and make up for wrongs through private charity and kindness. Be patient with your healing - it’s okay to grieve what happened and still move forward.

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I can relate to feeling judged. Start small: five minutes of dua a day, lots of istighfar, and avoid triggers. If telling someone is impossible, write a letter and then burn it as a symbolic release. Allah’s doors are open.

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