As-salamu alaykum - I feel lost between comfort and practicing Islam

As-salamu alaykum. I’ll keep this short-ish because it would turn into pages otherwise. If you need any details, please reply here instead of sending a DM. Lately I’ve been feeling like I’m doing Islam wrong. I’ve fallen into a lot of sins, I’ve been skipping salat, and whenever I try to return it just feels dull and I slip back. I’m also confused about what’s halal and haram - things that feel comfortable somehow seem haram, and I can’t tell which comforts are acceptable and which aren’t. Politics and the modern world make this worse: every ideology seems to have something problematic, even ones claiming Islamic foundations, since extremism shows up in many places. I feel tense all the time, like if I relax I’ll give in to sin. For most of my life I followed what society treated as normal, until I met a friend who shares some niche interests. Those hobbies or fandoms aren’t inherently forbidden, but parts of the community do haram things, and that worries me. Music is another struggle - I listen to a lot of music and don’t want to give it up, but I sincerely want to draw nearer to Allah and I don’t know the right way forward. Some close relatives insist music is haram and say there are bigger sins to worry about, including something much worse I won’t mention. Overall, I feel like I’m chasing comfort without knowing which comfort to choose. I’ve tried many paths in life and ran out of options - only Islam feels left to turn to. I’m looking for simple, practical advice on how to balance staying true to my faith while not cutting off everything that gives me comfort, and how to find clarity between halal and haram without becoming so rigid I’m paralyzed. JazakAllahu khair for any honest, down-to-earth suggestions.