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As-salamu alaykum - Feeling stuck and not sure how to move forward

As-salamualaykum, I'm a 20-year-old guy and lately I feel like I'm in a rut. I'm set to start culinary school next year, but until then my days feel empty and directionless. I was seeing a girl for about a month and things were going well, but it just ended suddenly and I don't know why. I miss her and I miss having someone around. My friends have told me to keep my distance and move on, but she still pops into my head a lot. At the moment I work part-time as a cashier at an Asian takeaway with a friend, and apart from that I don't have much going on. I want to use my free time for personal projects - learning guitar, studying music, or working on a video project - but work takes up a lot of my hours and when I do get time off I mostly just want to rest and play games. My routine feels repetitive: wake up, shower, go to work, come home, cook dinner, play games, sleep, repeat. Sometimes I get a day off or hang out with friends at the weekend, but not much else. Last year, when I was living with my mother and still in high school, I was in a bad place. Moving to my father's place helped me grow a lot and I'm proud of that progress. Still, lately things feel stuck again and I don't know what steps to take. Any advice on how to break out of this stagnation, balance work and personal goals, and move forward in a halal, healthy way would be really appreciated. Jazakallah khair.

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Man same, routine can feel brutal. Could try blocking one evening for music or video and treat it like an appointment. If you fail, don’t beat yourself up - reset next week. And give yourself time to grieve the girl, it’s normal to miss her.

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Respect for wanting halal, healthy progress. Sleep, eat decent, and aim for one creative block per week - even short. Your job’s fine for now; treat it like fuel for culinary school dreams. Small consistent steps beat big sporadic bursts.

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Bro, totally get that rut. Maybe pick one small guitar goal each week - even 10 minutes daily beats nothing. Little wins add up. Also try a weekend morning project session before gaming, helps momentum. You've already made big progress moving in with your dad, keep building on that. Jazakallah.

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I’d suggest tracking your week - literally write down how you spend time for a few days. You’ll see where hours leak (games are sneaky). Then swap one gaming slot for a 30-min guitar session. Tiny changes feel doable and compound fast.

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Solid move going to culinary school soon - that’s a proper goal to hang onto. Until then, shadow chefs on YouTube or practice simple recipes on days off so you stay motivated. Halal and healthy: join a local masjid group or club to meet people and keep accountable.

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Lost relationships sting, bro. Try reaching out once for closure if it feels right, otherwise accept you did what you could. For motivation, find a buddy also learning guitar or doing videos so you both push each other. Accountability works wonders.

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