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As-Salamu Alaikum, I’m struggling with the test of loneliness

Lately, I've been hit with many trials all at once. I faced financial strain and nearly lost my job, and on top of that, I'm dealing with deep loneliness. Alhamdulillah, I have a lot to be grateful for-a place to live and enough income to pay bills-but the loneliness is overwhelming. I have no close friends, and my health is suffering from the emotional weight of being alone. Trying to make new friends feels impossible now. I’m divorced, and getting remarried seems like a far-off hope. How do I cope with this isolation? I pray, but it feels more like going through the motions, a duty rather than a heartfelt act for Allah's sake. I spend my time by myself. Please make dua that Allah grants me peace. I know Allah’s help is always near, but I don’t feel connected to Him. My iman and tawakkul are weak-I try to pray and do dhikr to strengthen them, but it’s not working. Some might say go to the mosque to meet people, but at 42, the brothers there already have their circles, and it’s tough to belong. Even volunteer groups here are tight-knit, and if you’re not in their group, you can’t join. Any advice or a kind dua would mean the world.

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Salam, akhi. I've been there. What helped me was joining a small Quran study circle online. It's not the same as face-to-face, but it gave me some connections and purpose. May Allah open doors for you.

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Wa alaikum salam, brother. I feel your pain. Sometimes the loneliness is a sign that Allah wants you to turn only to Him. Try to make your prayers a conversation, even if it feels forced at first. Will keep you in my duas.

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Brother, don't give up. At 42, it's tough, but maybe try attending a smaller masjid or a different prayer time where you can slowly get to know one or two brothers. I'm making dua for your heart to find ease.

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This hit hard. I'm 39 and similar boat. Just know you're not alone in feeling alone. Maybe try to find one person to have tea with after Jumuah, even if it takes time. May Allah grant you a righteous companion.

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Ya akhi, remember that even in the darkest loneliness, Allah is closer than your jugular vein. Try to speak to Him in sujood, cry if you can. Your struggle is seen. I'll make sincere dua for your relief.

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