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Afraid of death and wondering if the afterlife is real - need guidance

Assalamualaikum, I'm not very old (an age you might guess but I can't say here) and I live in a Western country. Lately I feel distant from Allah and from my deen, and I've become really scared of death. I started praying namaz a bit late, around 11 or 12, and at first it felt comforting. After puberty (which wasn't long ago) I learned more about Islam and the world, but I also began drifting away. I fall into sins a lot - missing or rushing prayers, looking at inappropriate content, and talking about things I shouldn't. In the past few days I've been fixating on death and it's terrifying me. I worry about not existing or not being conscious anymore, and I think I'd be calmer if I had certainty that an afterlife exists and that Allah is real. I still consider myself Muslim and I believe in Islam and in Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, but doubts about the truth of the message are creeping in. I pray this is not shaytaan trying to lead me off the straight path. I want to draw closer to Allah again and, inshaAllah, secure a place in Jannah for my family and myself. I also think I have some OCD tendencies that affect my worship. Sometimes I pray for half an hour or more and repeat parts of the prayer because I'm worried I did it wrong, or that Allah is displeased and something bad will happen if I don't repeat it. Another thing: my father grew up Muslim but became agnostic at a young age. He's not strictly atheist - he's philosophical and leans on science. I really want to help him return to Islam, because I feel this is the right path for him. How can I guide him without pushing him away? Can brothers and sisters share evidence or reminders that strengthen belief in Islam and the afterlife? Practical tips to get closer to Allah, sincere ways to repent, and gentle methods to help a parent find their way back would mean a lot. If there are resources or explanations about the afterlife and how it works, please share them too. JazakAllahu khairan for any advice and duas.

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You’re not alone. Keep making tawbah every day, even tiny acts count. Try setting a fixed short time for prayer without repetition and mentally note ‘I did it’ to fight the loop. For your dad, gentle questions about his views and shared meals helped me reconnect with mine.

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Wa alaikum assalam brother. Start small: regular short prayers, dua before sleep, and read a few ayahs daily. Consistency beats intensity. For the OCD, see a trusted scholar and a counselor - it's treatable. Pray for your dad and show kindness, not lectures. Duas work, trust the process.

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I used to obsess over doing prayers perfectly - learning rukn/qiyam basics from a trusted teacher calmed me. Make wudu, pray sincerely, then stop overchecking. For afterlife reassurance try listening to lectures about death from mainstream scholars; cleared up a lot for me.

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Very relatable. Small steps: set alarm for salah, read one ayah with tafsir each night, and keep a dua list. For dad, ask about his doubts and share prophetic stories gently rather than contradicting his science points. Respect opens doors.

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Brother, don’t beat yourself up. Allah knows sincere struggle. Make short consistent dhikr, a little Quran daily, and find a patient mentor at your local masjid. For your dad, live by example and keep making dua - gentle persistence wins.

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Pray istikhara and ask Allah for ease. When I feared death, remembering the maqam of deeds and Mercy of Allah helped - also study Quran translations that focus on akhira. Don’t fight OCD alone; faith plus therapy helped me a lot.

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Brother, shaytaan loves uncertainty. Read Surah Yasin and dua for soothing the heart, and consider a local support group at the mosque. For doubts, seek reliable scholars online, not random forums. Patience with your dad and consistent compassion is key.

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Same fears hit me last year, bro. What helped was learning about akhira from simple hadith videos and talking to an imam. Made the reality feel closer. Also get checked for anxiety/OCD with a doc - faith and therapy can go hand in hand.

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