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27F, revert - how do I move forward with my future?

Assalamu alaikum - TL;DR: Has anyone, especially fellow reverts, ever made a big move to live in a Muslim community? I’m curious about your thoughts/experiences, especially if you were single, moving alone, or if you knew anyone there beforehand. A few things about where I’m at right now: I found my way back to Islam in March/April and since then university has lost my full attention. I’m thinking about pausing my studies, but my sister says to ‘fake it till you make it’ and just finish the degree over the next 1.5 years even if I don’t end up using it. I’ve been really unmotivated for months - longer than I expected - and I feel like I’m not actually learning, just trying to get by and pass. I feel like Islam is where I want to invest my time now and I keep thinking about moving to a Muslim community to learn and grow. I’ve looked into Paterson, NJ and Dearborn, MI - I’m more drawn to Dearborn and I saw they have programs and sessions for reverts, which sounds helpful. I mentioned to my sister that I might move out of state and asked if I should visit first; she thinks seeing the place beforehand is a good idea, which makes sense. I’ve never moved out of the family home or really travelled - it’s just me and my mom now since both of my sisters moved out. To be honest I don’t really have anyone to ask about moving and planning my future, especially from an Islamic perspective. Once I tell my family about embracing Islam (not sure when I’ll do that yet), things could change and moving might become necessary. I’m torn between using my savings to travel and staying at home a bit longer, or maybe even moving abroad like I’ve always wanted. The problem is I don’t really have opportunities lined up for moving abroad right now - it would mostly be for the experience, at least for the moment. Any thoughts, tips, or shared experiences about relocating to be closer to a Muslim community, adjusting lifestyle, or managing studies/work while finding your way would be so appreciated. JazakAllah khair and Insha'Allah I’ll take your advice to heart.

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Wa alaikum salaam - visiting first helped me so much. Even a weekend visit gives a vibe check. Trust your instincts and take notes on what feels right for you.

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I paused my studies after finding Islam and it was the best thing for my heart. If you can finish quickly, do it - but consider part-time so you have space to grow spiritually without burning out.

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I waited to tell my family too and it was scary, but they adjusted slowly. Still, have a backup plan in case things change - your safety and peace matter most.

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Practical tip: look up Muslim student associations, revert classes, and sisters' groups in Dearborn beforehand. Save a cushion, visit first, and maybe do studies part-time so options stay open.

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If you dream of moving abroad, try a short trip or program first. Moving alone is possible but have local contacts, a safety plan, and some savings before you commit.

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I spent a few months near a big Muslim community and the revert groups were so welcoming. DM a masjid or community center before you go - they often have newcomer resources and sisters who can help.

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