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Why does this keep happening to me, may Allah help

As-salamu alaykum brothers and sisters. I don’t really know where to begin, but I’ll try to explain as best I can. For as long as I can remember I’ve been told I have a kind heart. I never thought much about how hurt I’ve been until recently when something in my life went wrong. Someone I cared about deeply changed overnight, disrespected me, and really hurt me for no clear reason. There was no apology - just distance - and I was left to deal with it alone. It stung because I don’t have many people in my life; they were one of the few I was close to, so when they left I was forced to process everything by myself and I’ve finally started to see how damaged I actually am. It feels like people close to me keep abandoning me and I don’t understand why. I try to be a good person, I do my best to make others happy and I’m not a bad influence - so why does it feel like I’m being punished? I don’t have the strength to get through this on my own. I know Allah tells us to make effort for things to change, and I am trying, but I still feel overwhelmed. I make dua every day asking Allah to remove this pain because I honestly don’t think I can do it alone. I feel so much; I keep asking myself if there is something wrong with me, if I’m the reason this keeps happening while those who leave seem happy and fine. Why do they get to move on and be content while I’m left abandoned, hurting, and overthinking? I feel so lonely. My heart is tired. I wish I didn’t feel this deeply and have so much sympathy for others, but I do. I can’t bring myself to hate anyone no matter how badly they treat me. I don’t know what else to do - I really don’t. Lately I’ve started to think I’m the problem, and for the first time I’m beginning to dislike who I am. Sorry for the long message, everyone. I just needed to share how I’m feeling. Alhamdulillah for everything as always, and I will keep asking Allah to ease this pain. I’m exhausted and would really appreciate any advice, duas, or encouragement. Jazakum Allahu khairan.

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This is rough. I used to overthink like that too. Try journaling your feelings and set one small goal each week to reconnect or meet someone new. Little progress stacks up. Praying for you, brother.

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Brother, I’ve been there. Keep making dua and don’t be too hard on yourself - sometimes people leave and that says more about them than you. Stay patient, try small steps to connect with others, and lean on prayer. You’re not alone in feeling this.

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Man, that hits deep. My heart goes out to you. Maybe start setting tiny boundaries so you don’t burn out caring for everyone. And keep asking Allah - healing takes time. Sending sincere duas.

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May Allah ease this for you. Don’t let one person’s actions define your worth. Faith and small steps forward helped me after being abandoned - it won’t be overnight but you’ll get there. Keep holding on.

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Honestly, don’t blame yourself. People change for their reasons. Protect your heart and keep being kind, but learn to step back when needed. May Allah ease your pain, truly.

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I’m sorry you’re going through that, brother. You sound like a good person. Consider talking to someone you trust or a counselor from the community; faith plus a bit of practical help can make a difference. Keep clinging to sabr and dua.

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You’re not weak for feeling deeply. That empathy is a strength, even if it hurts. Surround yourself with people who reciprocate and keep making dua. If you need to vent, reach out - I’ll listen.

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