Thinking About Getting Married But Feeling Anxious About Finances
As-salamu alaykum everyone. I hope you're all doing well. I'm at a point where I'm thinking about marriage, but honestly, I feel pretty stuck because of my financial situation. I currently live with my mother, alhamdulillah, and I've been working for about a year now. The problem is that I'm the only one supporting our household. My mother depends on me for everything, and since housing costs here are so high, buying a home would mean a big mortgage. My main worry is that if I do get married, I would need a place for my wife and me, and also a place for my mother. I know that in an ideal world, a house with separate living spaces could work, but that's a huge financial commitment. I also understand that many women might prefer not to live with their mother-in-law, even though my mother is wonderful. This whole thing has made me hesitant to even start looking for a spouse because I don't know how I'd manage the finances for two households. I know I should have tawakkul in Allah SWT, but it's genuinely tough. Sometimes I think maybe I should just focus on my career and save up a good amount first. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Any advice would be appreciated. Jazakum Allahu khayran.