Struggling with Strong Sexual Urges - Need Advice, Assalamualaikum

Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters, I could really use some advice on dealing with this. I've had to fight strong sexual urges for as long as I can remember. For me they often felt like a way to escape from problems. My childhood was rough and I live with depression, CPTSD and anxiety. Because of that I've fallen behind others in life, and I've often felt let down or abandoned by fellow Muslims. I'm worried about marriage because it seems so hard to get a proposal these days and people expect a lot. I lack confidence - I worry I won't be able to satisfy a wife. Money is tight; I'm lower middle class and the cost and expectations around marriage make me pessimistic about ever getting married. I've been trying to avoid triggers and stay away from anything that feeds these urges, but the desire keeps coming back. Sometimes it feels so intense that I catch myself thinking about paying someone to be with me, which scares me. In real life I stay distant and try to be very respectful with women. I avoid unnecessary conversations with the opposite gender at work and give people plenty of space. I need practical, realistic suggestions for coping with these urges and improving my chances for a halal marriage and better mental health. What has helped you or others you know? Ideas I'm open to: - Ways to manage cravings and lower sexual tension in halal ways - Practical steps to build self-confidence and social skills for marriage - How to find affordable, sincere marriage routes (families, community introductions, mosque networks) - Islamic spiritual practices that help with control (du'a, dhikr, fasting, etc.) - Mental health resources that work alongside faith (therapists who understand Islamic values) Jazakum Allahu khair for any sincere advice or dua.