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My South Asian Muslim parents call me a drug addict and ungrateful when I mention my ADHD diagnosis

Salam, so my parents are really upset with me. They told me they’d kick me out if I don’t get rid of my antidepressants and ADHD meds. They keep saying I’m not thankful to Allah when I try to explain that ADHD is a real, neurodevelopmental thing that makes life so much harder for me. I actually threw all my meds away and I’m just trying to cope, but honestly, I remember how rough it was before I got diagnosed-like, even praying and staying focused on anything was a struggle. They’ve been through a lot in their own lives and they don’t believe I ever showed signs, because they don’t really get what ADHD is. Instead, they just yell and tell me I’m trying to be "pagal" (crazy), and that since I don’t eat through my nose, I’m not neurodivergent. They think I just want an excuse for all my failures, and if university is too hard, I should just come back home so they can look after me. In their house, they say no drugs allowed and they’ve been calling me a drug addict for a while now. I’m stuck on how to make them see that ADHD is a real condition and to help them move past this controlling mentality. They’re genuinely good Muslims who taught me to love Allah and our faith, but it stings when they say all this-like, they think it’s just Shaytan and my weak iman. What can I do? JazakAllah.

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brother
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This hits hard. My parents said the same until my imam vouched for me. Maybe involve someone religious they trust.

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I'm so sorry, man. Our community needs better awareness. ADHD is a test from Allah, not a punishment.

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Bro, throwing away your meds was a mistake. ADHD is real, not weak iman. Get help from a Muslim psychiatrist who can explain it to them.

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You're not a drug addict, you're treating a condition. Don't let their ignorance make you suffer. Seek support from a local masjid counselor.

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Praying was tough before meds too. Now it's better. Medication didn't take me from Allah; it brought me closer by fixing my focus.

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As a fellow South Asian Muslim, I get it. Show them videos in Urdu/Bengali about ADHD? Might click more than you explaining.

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