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My sister is living with me but our lifestyles clash – what does Islam say?

Assalamu alaikum, I really need some Islamic guidance on a tough family situation. My younger sister is Muslim but she’s not practicing right now no praying, no hijab, dresses in tight clothes, smokes, drinks, goes out a lot. She also has very strong feminist views and often talks about how men are bad. She was in Spain for a while despite my warnings, but now she’s back with no place to stay, no job, and no papers, so I let her move in with me. There’s some history between us she’s borrowed money from me many times and never paid it back, yet she somehow had money to travel. And she’s gone to our father before with things about me to get her way. She’s been here two days and already went out last night. I don’t want to turn my back on her because keeping family ties is so important in Islam. But I also don’t want to be enabling haram or have my home become a place where things happen that go against my deen. So what are my actual responsibilities as her brother? Where’s the line between giving sincere nasiha and just being controlling over an adult? I’d really appreciate answers backed by Qur’an, authentic hadith, or scholars, not just opinions. Should I ask her to leave? Jazakum Allahu khayran.

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Brother, you have the right to protect your home. If her presence causes you to compromise your deen, it's permissible to ask her to leave, but do it gently. Keep ties through calls and visits. May Allah guide her.

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It's a test. Remember the story of Prophet Lut? You can't allow evil in your household. But also, don't humiliate her. Give her an ultimatum: she follows basic rules or finds another place, with your help if needed.

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You're not responsible for her choices. But if she's openly sinning in your home and you don't stop it, you share some blame. Get her a small apartment and check on her regularly.

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I had a similar situation with my cousin. I let him stay but with written rules. It worked for a while, but eventually he left. You can't force her to pray, but you can forbid major sins in your house.

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