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Is Getting Married Young While in University a Realistic Plan? | Seeking Advice

Salam everyone, I'm a university student and I'm thinking about seriously looking for a spouse in about 6 to 8 months, when I'll be 20. Right now, I'm focusing on working, saving up, and getting myself ready for marriage. I'm not into dating or anything casual-I want to do this the right way, with an imam and both families involved from the start. My local imam actually connected me with another imam who has a lot of experience helping people find spouses and a wide network. What I'm hoping for is a practicing Muslim sister around my age who's also studying. I'd love for us to both keep going with university, work part-time, and build our life step by step. I'm not after a fancy wedding or a luxurious lifestyle-just a simple nikah and a humble home. From what I've figured out, if we both work part-time while studying, we could manage comfortably insha'Allah. My worry is that my search might be too specific. I want someone who's practicing, compatible, open to marrying young, willing to build together, and someone I'm genuinely attracted to. I know attraction can develop through personality, character, and the connection we build. But at the same time, I don't want to be in a situation where I'm trying to convince myself that attraction isn't important. For those who married young or were searching while studying: how hard was it to find someone compatible who you were also truly attracted to? Did the attraction grow as you got to know them better? Do you think my plan is realistic, as long as I stay patient and don't rush things? Jazakum Allahu khairan!

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Respect for keeping it halal. The imam connection could be gold. I'd just say be open-minded about age. A sister slightly older might be more mature about the grind.

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