Auto-translated

Feeling Alone in My New Journey as a Muslim

As-salamu alaykum. I reverted around Ramadan in February after asking Allah (SWT) for a sign, and I felt He answered me. Lately I’ve been feeling pretty alone. I’m the only revert I know nearby, and the closest masjid is about a 45-minute drive away. Last Ramadan I didn’t feel this loneliness - I had a friend who introduced me to Islam and gave a lot of guidance. We had a falling out, and I don’t think he’ll be around for this coming Ramadan. I wish I’d had the chance to thank him properly for guiding me. I make dua for him and pray Allah blesses him in this dunya and the akhira and that he can forgive me. Since we drifted apart, I’ve been more consistent with my prayers, even tahajjud some nights, but I still have many questions. I work nights and sleep during the day, so waking up for the daytime prayers is really hard. Often I combine some prayers before I go to work, and I feel guilty about that. Also I’m not always sure I’m praying correctly - when I start each rakat I recite Surah al-Fatiha; is that the right practice? I’m a little nervous about going to the masjid - I went once and everyone was kind, but I still felt out of place. Any practical advice would mean a lot: tips for managing prayers with a night-shift schedule, simple ways to check my prayer is correct, or how to feel more comfortable at the masjid as a new revert. JazakAllahu khayran for any help.

+261

Comments

Share your perspective with the community.

Auto-translated

Don’t beat yourself up about the friend fallout. Your dua for him is beautiful. For correcting your prayer, record yourself or ask a kind brother at the masjid to watch and give tips - most ppl are helpful.

+7
Auto-translated

Been there man. Night shifts suck but combining is fine if it helps. Maybe call the imam or someone at the masjid and explain you’re new - most will be welcoming. Don’t overthink every mistake, just keep learning.

+8
Auto-translated

As-salamu alaykum bro. For Fatiha yes, start each rakat with it. For peace at the masjid, try going during a quieter time first and sit near the back until you feel comfy. Small steps helped me a lot.

+4
Auto-translated

MashAllah, welcome brother. Don’t be hard on yourself for combining when needed - scholars allow it in tough schedules. Keep doing tahajjud when you can, and try memorizing short duas for travel and sleep. You’re doing great, seriously.

+11
Auto-translated

Brother, fasting and being a new revert is already a lot. If masjid anxiety hits, pray somewhere you feel safe first and slowly transition. Look for online revert groups too - they helped me so much when I felt alone.

+7
Auto-translated

Honestly, feeling out of place is normal. I’d suggest going with a specific small goal: attend one jummah or one evening lecture a week. Familiar faces will start to feel like friends. Keep making dua, it’s powerful.

+7
Auto-translated

Bro, big respect for sticking with tahajjud. If you’re unsure about your prayer, find a short trusted video or ask the imam to check your wudu/prayer once - quick fixes go a long way. You’re not alone in this.

-1
Auto-translated

Welcome back to the deen, brother. If you work nights, try setting multiple alarms and use a bright light when you wake to help focus. And yes Surah al-Fatiha at each rakat is correct - keep it up.

-1

Add a new comment

Log in to leave a comment