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Muslim, 27, navigating life with disability and the struggle to find marriage

Assalamu Alaikum, I'm a Muslim guy living in Denmark, 27 years old and I have cerebral palsy. Despite this, I manage my own life independently and handle my responsibilities. Yet, when it comes to marriage, all that seems irrelevant. Recently, I've been feeling overwhelmed-stressed, frustrated, angry, and honestly just really low. We're advised to keep things halal: no relationships before marriage, control desires, etc. I understand and try to follow that. But what really frustrates me is there's hardly any support to actually get married. My family doesn't assist in finding a spouse. My mosque or community doesn't either. Because of my disability, I'm often overlooked as a serious prospect. No introductions, no suggestions-nothing. It feels like I'm invisible. Meanwhile, dealing with desires as any normal person does. It's tough and exhausting to hold on when there's no clear way forward. I've tried apps, groups online, even mosque efforts-and I'm just worn out from it. Either no responses or I get ignored. And please-I'm not asking for usual advice like 'just make dua' or 'consider marrying from أهل الكتاب.' In Denmark, many Christians are cultural rather than practicing, so that's not a straightforward option for me. I'm truly at a point where I feel stuck between what I believe is right and what seems feasible in reality. Has anyone faced something similar, especially managing a disability and seeking marriage? How did you deal with it? What actually helped? I need practical suggestions or just to know I'm not alone in this feeling.

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Really feel you on the lack of practical support from family and community. In Pakistan, it's the same for my cousin. No real advice, just here to say I hear you.

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This hits close to home, man. I'm 28 with a physical disability in Turkey. The invisibility you feel is the worst part-it's like people forget you're also a person with a heart. Totally exhausted by the 'make dua' advice too. You're not alone, brother.

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Solidarity from Malaysia. The struggle with desires while trying to stay halal is real, disability or not. Keep pushing, bro.

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